"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You can't have what you want unless you imagine it

War Against Betaism

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You often hear the phrase "I can't picture myself with that girl." That's where the problem starts, and that's when the chances of you getting that HB start declining. Imagination is an important part for us humans. It's the blueprint to our actions before we execute them. Now what if you can't picture something happening? It's not going to happen, or it is getting to happen, except it's sloppy. People are intimidated around beautiful women because of this. Human beings fear the unknown, what they can't imagine or identify, and when you haven't originally played the scenario through in your head, you won't have a clue of what's going to happen next, and that's why guys' get nervous.

What's funny about most of this pick up stuff is that you simply just have to do it. Don't give her all your attention. Don't nag her with question after question. Look relaxed and comfortable with yourself. Well, now I'm telling you to picture yourself with that HB. Picture Jeri Lee or Jessica Alba sucking up to you, dying for your attention and doing everything to get you to look their way while you simply yawn at their attempts, sitting comfortably on a leather couch, drinking your favorite drink, and praying for a better challenge.

Olympic athletes do a variation of this with the sport they play. They replay situations in their heads in order to improve and perfect performance. What you shouldn't be doing is picturing yourself with that HB having picnics together, getting married, having children, etc. That's the AFC version of this.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Great advice. This kind of thinking will allow to develop the self-esteem needed to confidently approach and close, or to take your rejections with a grain of salt. Because I think a lot of guy approach chicks just for the sake of saying they've approach and talked, when in the back of their minds they were thinking this chick is too good for me. I'm guilty of that myself.
 

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I would have to agree that a lot of nervousness can arise from fear of the unknown. I know this because it happens to me all the time and I still am having trouble defeating it.
 
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