"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You often hear the phrase "I can't picture myself with that girl." That's where the problem starts, and that's when the chances of you getting that HB start declining. Imagination is an important part for us humans. It's the blueprint to our actions before we execute them. Now what if you can't picture something happening? It's not going to happen, or it is getting to happen, except it's sloppy. People are intimidated around beautiful women because of this. Human beings fear the unknown, what they can't imagine or identify, and when you haven't originally played the scenario through in your head, you won't have a clue of what's going to happen next, and that's why guys' get nervous.

What's funny about most of this pick up stuff is that you simply just have to do it. Don't give her all your attention. Don't nag her with question after question. Look relaxed and comfortable with yourself. Well, now I'm telling you to picture yourself with that HB. Picture Jeri Lee or Jessica Alba sucking up to you, dying for your attention and doing everything to get you to look their way while you simply yawn at their attempts, sitting comfortably on a leather couch, drinking your favorite drink, and praying for a better challenge.

Olympic athletes do a variation of this with the sport they play. They replay situations in their heads in order to improve and perfect performance. What you shouldn't be doing is picturing yourself with that HB having picnics together, getting married, having children, etc. That's the AFC version of this.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great advice. This kind of thinking will allow to develop the self-esteem needed to confidently approach and close, or to take your rejections with a grain of salt. Because I think a lot of guy approach chicks just for the sake of saying they've approach and talked, when in the back of their minds they were thinking this chick is too good for me. I'm guilty of that myself.
 
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I would have to agree that a lot of nervousness can arise from fear of the unknown. I know this because it happens to me all the time and I still am having trouble defeating it.
 
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