"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You can't dance" - What did I do wrong?

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So I was in a bar last night. At about 1:30 a UG comes up to me and is like "Hey, you've been looking at me all night. Let's dance." I had indeed made EC with her a few times and smiled. So I go off and we try to dance...I had had a couple beers and I can't dance for crap anyway. She's like "you can't dance!!" and I said "Yeah, but there's something I CAN do" and I made some pelvic thrusting motions, with a goofy grin on my face. She walked off.

Now, I'm not too concerned because I wasn't into her anyway. But I wonder what else I could have done about that **** test. Was I too C&F? Or just too C without the F?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CoolRunning said:
So I was in a bar last night. At about 1:30 a UG comes up to me and is like "Hey, you've been looking at me all night. Let's dance." I had indeed made EC with her a few times and smiled. So I go off and we try to dance...I had had a couple beers and I can't dance for crap anyway. She's like "you can't dance!!" and I said "Yeah, but there's something I CAN do" and I made some pelvic thrusting motions, with a goofy grin on my face. She walked off.

Now, I'm not too concerned because I wasn't into her anyway. But I wonder what else I could have done about that **** test. Was I too C&F? Or just too C without the F?
Just work on the dance skills and you'll be fine. When you acquire sick dance skills you'll start pulling tonnes of broads no prob.
 

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Thanks - I'm less concerned about the fact taht I can't dance, than how I handled the sh!t test. I mean, I thought she'd crack up or something rather than run off. What gives? She just wasn't fun, maybe?
 

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LOLOLOLOL that was hilarious!!!!

yes, she was a frigid woman.
 

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shoulda looked her straight in the face, hips thrusting like you're possessed, and just say, "you just can't recognize greatness if it was looking you in the face..." with a real serious tone...

blah, just a thought... a funny one at that... :woo: :rock:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Cool...just to make sure I get it then, what I said was perfectly fine (assuming my tone / body language were okay) and she just had a sky high ***** shield (as UG's often do, in my limited experience)
 
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"My status: 27 y/o, no friends, never dated. Working on week 1 of the boot camp. Going to stay at week 1 for a while (by choice) then move up.?

^^^^ This is a cause for concern and not your dancing!
 
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You could have asked her to show you some better moves.......
But she was an UG so why bother doing it in the first place.....I would rather you had never made EC with her in the first place.....why look at something you don't want?

Anyway you could have pulled some kind of C+F or just dance worse than before and make a joke out of it....something?
 

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CoolRunning said:
So I was in a bar last night. At about 1:30 a UG comes up to me and is like "Hey, you've been looking at me all night. Let's dance." I had indeed made EC with her a few times and smiled. So I go off and we try to dance...I had had a couple beers and I can't dance for crap anyway. She's like "you can't dance!!" and I said "Yeah, but there's something I CAN do" and I made some pelvic thrusting motions, with a goofy grin on my face. She walked off.

Now, I'm not too concerned because I wasn't into her anyway. But I wonder what else I could have done about that **** test. Was I too C&F? Or just too C without the F?

"Well thats something we have in common then". Thats C + F. Pelvic motions is aswell but your talking abit a sh!t test....you know it was a sh!t test. Pelvic motions is too much for that...

I stand by the fact of whats the point in pulling a UG anyways?

They are harder to pull than fit girls and are hardly worth any effort.
 

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I agree with what ElMonoloco when he said:
You could have asked her to show you some better moves.......
That would have been the best answer... You should have said something like "hehe, I know... what can i say, I cant be good at EVERYTHING;) ... You wanna show me some moves?" *eye contact, flirt and grin* (while saying this) ... That should have set you up nicely.

But if possible, try this with HB's as appose to UG's in future:rolleyes:


Laterz...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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..."That's nothing, you should hear me play the piano..."

Your reply was kinda ****y enough, but not that funny, and if she doesn't know you, a little creepy. Can you imagine George Clooney/James Bond/anyone women tend to find attractive using the groin-thrust? The same line accompanied with a raised eyebrow would have been more suggestive and sexy.

Better, tease her about her dancing, whether it was good or not. And learn to dance, its not hard, women love it and its fun.
 

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CoolRunning said:
Thanks - I'm less concerned about the fact taht I can't dance, than how I handled the sh!t test. I mean, I thought she'd crack up or something rather than run off. What gives? She just wasn't fun, maybe?
I think you would have handled it better (maybe even your dancing) if you didn't have as much to drink. I have nothing against drinking, it's just that if your game isn't high in a couple of areas, drinking seldom enhances it. A lot of guys will tell you that drinking gives them courage; that may be true but it's easy to have the courage to make an @ss of yourself in front of a woman when you're drunk.
 
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