"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You can't always get what you want, but...

Die Hard

Master Don Juan
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Lots of wisdom in these simple lyrics. When I focus and think about the meaning for a while, I always become at ease and get this "everything's gonna be alright" feeling over me.

We can get caught up in the Game now and then... Trying too hard, wanting it too much, getting frustrated about things, ugly bytches act like quality women, hot women act like spoiled brats, where are the quality ones? Or you just don't have what it takes to catch a quality woman, you realize you need to work on yourself and that requires some real effort which frustrates you etc. etc. etc. Why can't things just go the way you want them to go, why can't you just get what you want?!

Well...

You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes you just might find
You get what you need
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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