"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"you can only gain 1 lb of muscle per week"

protienpowder

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Is this a myth, or is this true? If its just a myth, what is the most about of muscle you can gain in month/week/year? I think there were times when I gained 4 lbs in a week, but I'd never gain 52 lbs in a year, at the most 15.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blinkwatt

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There is no set amount of muscle that you can gain,everybody bodies are different. What people tend to do is call all the weight they gain muscle,claiming they gained 40+ lbs. in a year,when most of the time it's fat. There is no right way of lifting,everyone is different and has different goals so everyone will come out with differeny results.
 

shaunuk

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Muscle growth isn't linear - you can gain large amounts of muscle one month, then much smaller amounts the month after. It's a complicated subject as far as I've been told. :)

blinkwatt - gaining 40lbs in your first year of training is perfectly possible in some cases. :)

-shaun
 

Bonez

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shaunuk said:
Muscle growth isn't linear - you can gain large amounts of muscle one month, then much smaller amounts the month after. It's a complicated subject as far as I've been told. :)

blinkwatt - gaining 40lbs in your first year of training is perfectly possible in some cases. :)

-shaun
I've seen three people go from about 180 lbs (12% bf) to 230 lbs (6% bf) in under 4 months. Wrestling and traditional games training, plus lots of traditional food. Depends on your body type though I guess.
 
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