"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You ask for advice then flame when its given.

syncmaster

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I don't understand... you all ask for advice, for routines and suggestions then when we give it to you you flame us. What do you want?
Is it because we're not saying "it's ok, better luck next time." I'm not your fvcking mother - i'm not gonna tell you you're good and pat you on the back when clearly you need a boot in the ass.
It's frustrating as hell for the few of us that post articles and tips to get flamed left right and centre all the fvcking time. What is our motivation to stick around and possibly help when everywhere we turn we're getting slammed up against a wall.

I like routines, yes i can run game without them but i like them because it frees my mind to be more observant to the social dynamics of the group. Who is making eye contact, who isn't. It's a script that I can follow so i can do other stuff at the same time. Driving in a car is a routine. If you had to "wing it" everytime you drove a car you'd never be able to talk on a cell phone at the same time. It's the exact same thing.
The more you practice the better you become - there is no substitute for actual field experience.

Ask and you shall receive but don't expect anybody to keep posting advice if you're going to continually flame people.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude, we're all soooo sorry. Alllow us to prostrate and suplicate ourselves to you.

Dude, I so wanna hang out with you in the field . Think of how invaluable it will be for me!! Dude, please, please, PLEASE!!! let me be your buddy. I wanna learn from you man.

For the record, i don't recall asking anybody's advice. I however, act as a consultant. Listen, if you post cheesy things , then reasonably expect to have other opinions be heard. You are a big boy, aren't cha??? So grow some thicker skin.
 

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Originally posted by syncmaster
I don't understand... you all ask for advice, for routines and suggestions then when we give it to you you flame us. What do you want?
Is it because we're not saying "it's ok, better luck next time." I'm not your fvcking mother - i'm not gonna tell you you're good and pat you on the back when clearly you need a boot in the ass.
It's frustrating as hell for the few of us that post articles and tips to get flamed left right and centre all the fvcking time. What is our motivation to stick around and possibly help when everywhere we turn we're getting slammed up against a wall.

I like routines, yes i can run game without them but i like them because it frees my mind to be more observant to the social dynamics of the group. Who is making eye contact, who isn't. It's a script that I can follow so i can do other stuff at the same time. Driving in a car is a routine. If you had to "wing it" everytime you drove a car you'd never be able to talk on a cell phone at the same time. It's the exact same thing.
The more you practice the better you become - there is no substitute for actual field experience.

Ask and you shall receive but don't expect anybody to keep posting advice if you're going to continually flame people.
Posts: 2065
Age: 19

That many posts and you're still a little *****.
 

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Look, you're pissing and moaning about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Re:

I applaud sync's tenacity at getting through to the young and old, alike, but as evidenced by the replies to this post, it only spurs the agitators further.

As stated before, GUYS DO NOT WANT TO BE MADE BETTER or LISTEN. People are very selective about what it is they want and don't want, and try to fit it into their mold. See Finances. See Politics. See Religion. See Relationships.

Guys that come here don't want anything, except to continue to come here, and possibly be "part" of the game.

Furthermore, to those troll-like posters replying, I don't recall, or even see where he singled out your names. So evidently some of you have guilty consciences.



A-Unit
 

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Re: Re: You ask for advice then flame when its given.

Originally posted by Chrisman
Posts: 2065
Age: 19

That many posts and you're still a little *****.
HAHAHA and at 22 you have had so much more life experience.... *cough* wanker *cough*

In response to Sync...man people will either take advice or reject...if they reject it that is their issue and due to their limiting beliefs so who cares if they try and flame you, you know what works, If they dont listen tough luck to them.
 

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It's a free country, and folks are free to reject good advice, or accept bad advice. Sometimes advice that's good for one person might be bad for another. It's up to the individual to decide what is good advice for them personally.

Because the advice on SS is given freely, I would say to any complainers: You get what you pay for, and if you feel the advice here is bad, go somewhere else where you're happy with the advice given.

This is the internet. There's going to be trolls, flamers, AW's, etc. on any board you visit. If you look for knowledge on the 'net, you'll have to dig through mountains of crap to find the few nuggets of wisdom. That probably won't ever change, and flaming someone won't raise the level of posted wisdom, and does no good for our brothers who need our help.
 

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Originally posted by GirlCrazy
It's a free country, and folks are free to reject good advice, or accept bad advice. Sometimes advice that's good for one person might be bad for another. It's up to the individual to decide what is good advice for them personally.

Because the advice on SS is given freely, I would say to any complainers: You get what you pay for, and if you feel the advice here is bad, go somewhere else where you're happy with the advice given.

This is the internet. There's going to be trolls, flamers, AW's, etc. on any board you visit. If you look for knowledge on the 'net, you'll have to dig through mountains of crap to find the few nuggets of wisdom. That probably won't ever change, and flaming someone won't raise the level of posted wisdom, and does no good for our brothers who need our help.
lol


This post is proof that Sosuave has gone to sh!t.... A few years ago you didn't need to dig through mountains of crap to find the few nuggets.. they were all nuggets.

The advice given by a select few is universal...... People only want to hear certain answers, and the bigger the AFC, the more he's bound to reject the "good" advice simply because it doesn't adhere to his mindest at that given moment... he'd rather believe that the "Disney" fairytale is right in front of him.:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by GirlCrazy
It's a free country, and folks are free to reject good advice, or accept bad advice. Sometimes advice that's good for one person might be bad for another. It's up to the individual to decide what is good advice for them personally.
wtf are you talking about ? what is all this mummabo jumbo ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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2000+ post and you still can't get over the posers?

If people want to flame then let them flame. You should definatley know not to take it to heart at this point.

Maybe a few more years and a few thousand more post will help you catch up with the rest of us.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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