"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You aren't perfect... and neither is anyone else

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I guess you could call this an epiphany of sorts. The last few weeks I've been rather down... not sure why, but a little more depressed than usual. Mainly my attitude has been "the world against me" and I've felt isolated at times.

About an hour ago, I was walking back from dinner and one of the finest HB on campus catches up to me and gives me a quick "hey". Immediately I notice that something's wrong and I so I ask her how she's doing, to which she replies, "oh, I'm having problems with the guys... they're being mean to me".

WHAT????

Here was this blonde hair blue eyed babe, who's seen surrounded by girls and guys alike, popular and pretty smart, without a care in the world. She's perfect .

OR IS SHE?

Nope!!! Well, let's just say that it woke me up. I'd wake up in the morning and imagine everyone i knew was happy, confident, satisfied.. and I had to get through the day to try my best to stay on top of things. It's completely untrue.

The truth is, EVERYONE has problems. From the skinny nerdy kid to the varsity athelete to the four-eyed spanish girl to the HB in the tight leather skirt. Of course people will try to hide or ignore (or DJs: accept and improve) their problems, but alas: they're still there.

Stop being jealous about better-looking guys. Stop dreaming about the day you'll be "like him". Stop wishing you were with the "perfect 10". They have problems or worries that you don't.

So take a deep breath.

And you'll begin to realize, just as I did, that everyone is fighting his own battle.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good post, everyone has their skeletons in the closet. However, some have worse or more problems than others. I have had depression problems, which to me, is probably one of the most horrible things a human being can experience. The worst thing about depression is, people cannot tell or DO NOT know you are suffering. A person who is depressed can come off as shy, cold and just an angry miserable person who CHOSE to be like that. Of course this is far from the truth and depression has "robbed" them from being themselves. This is why I want to stop drinking... Alcohol is like adding fuel to the fire, since it in itself is a depressant. Once again, good post.
 

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Awesome post, dude! It IS really easy to get caught up and make ourselves the center of the universe. We get to thinking "Woe is me! Everybody else has it so much better!"
That example with the HB is a real wake-up call. Nobody's invulnerable to problems.

One thing I like to remember that relates to this in a way is that everybody takes sh*ts. I found that in the Bible somewhere. Next time you can't work up the nerve to approach a chick, picture her "tearin' up da club."
 

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True.

It is important to realise that the girl with the beautiful looks never had to do anything to gain them.

Therefore being beautiful does not neccesarily make someone special, I have been fooling around with a digital camera recently and I have realised that I am above average looking, but I look everso slightly 'strange', however I have a great personality, and understand the DJ system.

It amazes me that we men put people on Pedestals for something as shallow as beauty....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Another bump for a righteous post.
 
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