"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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'YOU' are the source of a girl's happiness ?

KneghtRyder

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do you notice, that sometimes , a guy, or the relationship with him is the most important thing to a girl .. that relationship with you is so important to her sometimes.

I dont usually like discuss what women care about or their feelings, but I am throwing this out there for discussion and I could be completely wrong others may have a different experience, and might think that women could be completely apathetic and this not neccessary accurate but just throwing it out there for discussion.


She acts like you are the reason for her happiness.

do you think you can be the source for a girls entire happiness. I mean, when you are with her, she is happy..literally your presence makes her happy, And when you are not there, she is dull.. I think prehaps because she feels that when theres someone out there who thinks shes hot, and your presence provides some type of assurance, some type of comforting to her. I guess , some one who is there to take care of her or at least cares for her something she likes to be taken care of by.. .

well , for a guy its probably a huge ego boost that you are important and have a role and are needed so i guess both needs for both parties are meant somehow.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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betterthandead

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I've seen this and have been in relationships with boring girls where I was a source of entertainment, an interference of a sort. You definitely want to be with someone that excites you and engages you, vice versa.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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KneghtRyder said:
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do you think you can be the source for a girls entire happiness. I mean, when you are with her, she is happy..literally your presence makes her happy, And when you are not there, she is dull.. ....
Sounds like a lot of maintenance to me. It would be easier to just get her hooked on something else like crack.
 

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if this website preaches that a woman can not make you (a man) happy then it should preach that a man can not make a woman happy either.
happiness is something that you can not provide for someone else.
happiness is not a person, or an object.
happiness is an emotion that only you can give yourself.
some people pursue happiness and never find it.
 

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The inverse of that is what brought many guys to this website. Men make women their world all the time, and end up in ruins because of it.

The problem with making a woman your whole world is that when you get screwed over (and you will), there goes everything your happiness was built on.

Other can bring you happiness, but they are never responsible for it. When your happiness is dependent upon others, you only set yourself up for a precipitous collapse into depression. Its a powerless way to live.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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