"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you are now known as a womanizer...

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Ok I'm asking how you would handle these 2 scenarios:

1. You successfully picked up a nice girl, spend few days with her. And really likes her, but this girl is the shy type not very aggressive when it comes to the physical parts, like kissing and heavier stuff.
Problem is, when she asked you if you act like this (like when you picked up her) and do these things (your moves, how you seduced her, kissing etc) to all the girls you meet. And for a stupid mindless momment you decided to be honest and say yeah some but not all.
Then she goes muted, and the atmosphere isnt natural anymore, even if she says that she doenst mind, i can see that she does, since she says Im not her bf, but if her bf do that, its byebye.

How do u turn the table around and fix this? or is it just get over it and lession learned?


2. Since you are hanging out alot with your friends and relatives. Chances are that they will find out about you and your lust for females and that you date several of girls at one time. And they are the type of one girl only thing. Its not that you want to show them, but it just accidently happen, so now they know. They dont directly critize you, but its obvious that they don't like it either. What to do? They are really close to you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why do you care what they think of you?
It's not always bad to be a womanizer you know, it just makes things clearer for a lot of people.
 
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well as long as nothing you with a girl is official, then yove got nothing to worry about, wether your dating one girl, or three girls doesnt matter, because none of them are your girlfriend...

all your doing, really, is finding one that you like, one that you would enjoy a ltr with... am i wrong?

well, thats all anyone els needs to know...
 
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I say if they dont like it change your entire perspective and then change to be the clone they want, and then after that make them do the same thing for you.
You are here for you. You were born alone and will die alone-Live YOUR LIFE.
 
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Originally posted by Royal Elite
You are here for you. You were born alone and will die alone-Live YOUR LIFE.
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Nice :) (although you're not really born alone - your mother was sorta there as well ;))
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A true womanizer isn't known to be one. :)
 
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Originally posted by 00Kevin
A true womanizer isn't known to be one. :)
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how does one hide it?
 
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There is no reason why someone should ever think that you are the cause of your success. You have to focus on making it appear that women are the ones after you.

You should also always claim that you know nothing about women.

"yeah when it comes to women I don't know what I'm doing." The truth is you know exactly how to get in her pants.


When I have lots of girls and people find out about it. I just say something like, "all these women are driving me crazy. sometimes I just don't know what to do."

In other words, make it seem like you don't want all the attention.
 
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Originally posted by 00Kevin
There is no reason why someone should ever think that you are the cause of your success. You have to focus on making it appear that women are the ones after you.

You should also always claim that you know nothing about women.

"yeah when it comes to women I don't know what I'm doing." The truth is you know exactly how to get in her pants.


When I have lots of girls and people find out about it. I just say something like, "all these women are driving me crazy. sometimes I just don't know what to do."

In other words, make it seem like you don't want all the attention.
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Interesting. A guy playing the coy role. That's something to consider. How would you suggest a guy work it in if he's known as c0ck sure and an excellent read of women?
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Interesting. A guy playing the coy role. That's something to consider. How would you suggest a guy work it in if he's known as c0ck sure and an excellent read of women?
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Make up some bull**** about how you think you might of found a perfect little average girl. You can tell everyone that she isn't all that attractive but she has a great personality.

When the women hear this they will start to think differently about you. You can update them on your dates.

"She is so great she gives me back massages without me asking.. None of the other girls did that. "

"I'm totally shocked that i'm attracted to her personality and not her looks"

"I went out on a date with a really hot girl and it just didn't compare to little Rosie. Maybe I''ve just out grown hot girls."

You basically have to make other people thing that you have changed.

Trust me all the women will buy it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Squy
Ok I'm asking how you would handle these 2 scenarios:

1. You successfully picked up a nice girl, spend few days with her. And really likes her, but this girl is the shy type not very aggressive when it comes to the physical parts, like kissing and heavier stuff.
Problem is, when she asked you if you act like this (like when you picked up her) and do these things (your moves, how you seduced her, kissing etc) to all the girls you meet. And for a stupid mindless momment you decided to be honest and say yeah some but not all.
Then she goes muted, and the atmosphere isnt natural anymore, even if she says that she doenst mind, i can see that she does, since she says Im not her bf, but if her bf do that, its byebye.

How do u turn the table around and fix this? or is it just get over it and lession learned?


2. Since you are hanging out alot with your friends and relatives. Chances are that they will find out about you and your lust for females and that you date several of girls at one time. And they are the type of one girl only thing. Its not that you want to show them, but it just accidently happen, so now they know. They dont directly critize you, but its obvious that they don't like it either. What to do? They are really close to you.
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1. turn the tables by asking her the questioins... how she feels about it.. and keep going on asking... in the end..either break it up or get the booty by the same final words.

I am as I am, and I did not know you before, but we are here and I'm still who I am
 
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