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[sjchris]

I had a couple questions for AC/DC about approaches.

-What's are some good things to say when u first meet a girl?

-How do you get the girl attracted in the first few minutes you've met her?

-How do you get rid of self-limiting beliefs about approaches, like "She probably doesn't wanna be bothered", "Shes gonna know im hitting on her", etc etc.

 

[taiwanesedude227]

bump, is the offer for help still good?

 

[AC/DC]

I'm working 4pm-midnight 3 days in a row... I'm off at midnight PST so I'll respond to these then... sit tight for a few hours, I'll be right there.

 

[Oni]

Problems:
1) Can't play my cards right with girls, a lot of awkward silent moments (horrible at conversations and being C/F)
2) I act naturally but can't get girls to be interested
3) Have too many same classes with the girl i'm trying to get, showed mixed signals, shy or not interested.
4) another guy trying to get the same girl im trying to get, except he gets to spend a lot more time with her and they are better friends with each other. the same guy hangs out with me in my group.
5) Lack of gut

Solutions:
1) be a better observer, practice, practice, practice
2) improve myself, i'm more of the silent type. i can be a good leader, but a lot of times i just sit around and listen. only act if i wanted to
3) nothing much can be done here
4) the guys an obvious loser, lame guy but a good friend of her, he talks to her a lot on AIM, nearly everyday. just gotta pull myself together and act right.
5) grow some balls

 

[taiwanesedude227]

Also, one last problem. Sometimes I take the c&f a little too far and I don't really know how much c&f is too much.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by taiwanesedude227
1) I don't really have a lot of cool friends at my school because I'm in mostly "smart" classes with lots of nerdy kids, so I don't really have any social proof for getting a girl. Not a lot of girls would want to go out with someone who isn't in the "cool" crowd.

2) It's hard for me to make friends in my classes because it seems like everyone already knows each other and is already in a group.

3) I have almost no hot girls in my classes.

4) Flirting/C&F/Kino feels really awkward for me. I do get in some kino and c&f comments but i don't have that much confidence and I always feel nervous when I do it. I think girls pick up on this.

The answer to the first two is you need to infiltrate the group person by person, not as a mass. You don't need to be in a group.

3) doesnt matter.
4) you answered your question. Confidence is what you are lacking. Start working out, starting taking pride in yourself. Smile more. Radiate your presence.