you’re such an *******

[jhonny9546]

Why do women want men, during sex, to do things like choke them, spank them, degrade them, dominate them, tie them up, and so on, but in everyday life, they want a man who’s kind, respectful, polite, and well-mannered?


It doesn’t really make sense when you compare what they desire sexually with the kind of man they want to be with in a relationship.
Some say you have to be both: show that rough side only in bed, and your gentle side in everyday life. But what’s hard to understand is that when women are treated badly, yelled at, slapped, or even hit, they often don’t leave because they feel "disrespected." Instead, they stay and say things like “you’re such an *******,” and so on.

Now, I’m absolutely not saying women should be hit, definitely not. But it’s about understanding why some of them respond to violent or aggressive behavior by staying close, even after something like that happens

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why do women want men, during sex, to do things like choke them, spank them, degrade them, dominate them, tie them up, and so on, but in everyday life, they want a man who’s kind, respectful, polite, and well-mannered?

There's a way to perform such acts(tying her up, spanking her, etc etc)WITHOUT being a sadistic monster. Same way many men have spent part of their lives in organizations like The Delta Force or The SASR(where ending the lives of one's fellow humans is often required), without becoming modern day equivalents to Eichman

 

[Hamurabimbi]

When girls are horny, They seem more resistant to pain. Perhaps even enjoying the pain.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Why do women want men, during sex, to do things like choke them, spank them, degrade them, dominate them, tie them up, and so on

Its their feminine nature. They want and need to be dominated.

but in everyday life, they want a man who’s kind, respectful, polite, and well-mannered?

Say, they say they want a man who’s kind, respectful, polite, and well-mannered. Its basic SoSuave 101 to ignore what women say and pay attention to their actions instead.

But what’s hard to understand is that when women are treated badly, yelled at, slapped, or even hit, they often don’t leave because they feel "disrespected." Instead, they stay and say things like “you’re such an *******,” and so on.

Yeah bro, slap her azz!!! Chicks dig it.

 

[plumber]

because its the natural and clear thing to do. when we are not inhibited and we are clear, its natural to be respectful and polite, and its natural to get very aggressive with sex. this shows that your fit. she senses it without thinking about it. if you flip those around and are polite with sex and aggressive in other places its not going to work. as you know polite does not mean soft. if she takes time to think it through she will go with polite, if she just reacts instinctively she will go with aggressive.

 

[DonJefe19]

I think women like male dominance but they only like it when a guy has absolute control over it. Hence, us being gentleman in public but an absolute, depraved monster in bed. I find the contradiction baffling, but she tends to orgasm a lot harder when I do the rough stuff when she asks for it, and I tend to follow suit because I like it when she c*ms hard.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It makes perfect sense if you understand women enough. You are trying to explain what a woman wants thinking like a male, which is pointless.