"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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YO guys whats up. Need a bit of advice here.

Game_going_good

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Ok, this girl I have been seeing. First of all, this girl is FRAGILE, let me tell you that.

I've already email, number and kiss-closed months, months AGO.
3 months ago, she gave me the LJBF, BUT at the same time said "she is scared of losing me and whatever I choose in the future she will accept". She said she sees us being together, but just not yet at the moment(she recently broke up from an emotional relationship btw). Said things can change very fast. Remember, this was 3 months ago.

Time has passed since. We met a couple times since, both of us completely forgot it and never mentioned it again, as if it never happened.

Recently, she has started sending me the following types of texts:

"Hey, I miss you!".
"Love you"
"Hey dear!"
"Missing you"
"I miss u!"


and a lot of kiss smilies in texts and online.

I dont know whats going on now, we both forgot about the LJBF months ago, and pretend as if it never happened, and dont want to talk about it. So I don't think I can ask her "how is it between us now?".

Last we met was over a month ago. And she has sent me the "Miss you" texts a number of times, even as far as suggesting we "go somewhere again".

We're both 21 by the way.

WE TEXT A LOT , we are VERY comfortable with each other. Both of us are EXTREMELY comfortable with touching each other(although, me being the male, my kino is more easily laid and done, but she does a lot kino as well, especially considerable since she is shy around me<--she told me that, yet spends hours a day with me, and does a lot of kino as well).

What should I do? Lip kiss close?

(And don't give me the usual I read here about LJBFs please. It's not true, the myth, if you get LJBF, you have no chances. Because I have personal experience, I was LJBFed in high school, and few months after the girl came craving me, and we went on a 3 yr relationship :D)

Where I hit good? I barely iniatated contact and also lost big interest in the past months, so she really got hit I suppose.

So, those "things can change very fast" is now happening? Or am I looking too deep into this?

Thanks for all feedback guys.

EDIT: Fvcuk, keep thinking it's October. I'm really f'ed by by staying home too much, not even up to date with the months. My bad.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She is lonely and dateless and is looking to you for ego inflation and validation. She knows that you showed interest in the past so she is looking for some more now. She thinks of you as a guaranteed 'supplier' .

I really do not think that you are experienced enough to deal with this new approach by her without eventually getting LJBF all over again when her ego appetite has been satisfied.
Why do I think this? Because you have an emotional investment in her which she has not earned yet, but she has none in you. That situation sets you up for exploitation.
 

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My goals are to get her as a gf. I have no lust for sex or anything. Don't know about the future.

jophil: She's gone past the LJBF's situation. To the point I can basically guarantee she KNOWS I don't give a damn about her anymore like I "used" to. So it's almost as if she is trying to recover.

She's LJBF'ed numerous kids in one month alone, and has never talked to them again. Yet she texts me everyday, and keeps hinting to meet again everyday, because I have kept myself away from her for months, and have felt great about it.

She REALISES I am not like I was before, hence her "You never message or call me anymore...". Obviously I'm not letting myself fall, so thats no problem.
 

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Also, on Facebook, she keeps writing status' that are always familiar to me, which refer to what we always talk about, and they always spell me somehow (obviously she never says it directly that the status is for me, of course she wont, as wit anyone).

Like:

"Listen to the voice in your HEART"
"Never waste time..."
"Half of me says YES, other half is lost..."
"So close, yet so far..."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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**** her and see where it goes from there
 
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