"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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YO guys whats up. Need a bit of advice here.

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Ok, this girl I have been seeing. First of all, this girl is FRAGILE, let me tell you that.

I've already email, number and kiss-closed months, months AGO.
3 months ago, she gave me the LJBF, BUT at the same time said "she is scared of losing me and whatever I choose in the future she will accept". She said she sees us being together, but just not yet at the moment(she recently broke up from an emotional relationship btw). Said things can change very fast. Remember, this was 3 months ago.

Time has passed since. We met a couple times since, both of us completely forgot it and never mentioned it again, as if it never happened.

Recently, she has started sending me the following types of texts:

"Hey, I miss you!".
"Love you"
"Hey dear!"
"Missing you"
"I miss u!"


and a lot of kiss smilies in texts and online.

I dont know whats going on now, we both forgot about the LJBF months ago, and pretend as if it never happened, and dont want to talk about it. So I don't think I can ask her "how is it between us now?".

Last we met was over a month ago. And she has sent me the "Miss you" texts a number of times, even as far as suggesting we "go somewhere again".

We're both 21 by the way.

WE TEXT A LOT , we are VERY comfortable with each other. Both of us are EXTREMELY comfortable with touching each other(although, me being the male, my kino is more easily laid and done, but she does a lot kino as well, especially considerable since she is shy around me<--she told me that, yet spends hours a day with me, and does a lot of kino as well).

What should I do? Lip kiss close?

(And don't give me the usual I read here about LJBFs please. It's not true, the myth, if you get LJBF, you have no chances. Because I have personal experience, I was LJBFed in high school, and few months after the girl came craving me, and we went on a 3 yr relationship :D)

Where I hit good? I barely iniatated contact and also lost big interest in the past months, so she really got hit I suppose.

So, those "things can change very fast" is now happening? Or am I looking too deep into this?

Thanks for all feedback guys.

EDIT: Fvcuk, keep thinking it's October. I'm really f'ed by by staying home too much, not even up to date with the months. My bad.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jophil28

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She is lonely and dateless and is looking to you for ego inflation and validation. She knows that you showed interest in the past so she is looking for some more now. She thinks of you as a guaranteed 'supplier' .

I really do not think that you are experienced enough to deal with this new approach by her without eventually getting LJBF all over again when her ego appetite has been satisfied.
Why do I think this? Because you have an emotional investment in her which she has not earned yet, but she has none in you. That situation sets you up for exploitation.
 

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My goals are to get her as a gf. I have no lust for sex or anything. Don't know about the future.

jophil: She's gone past the LJBF's situation. To the point I can basically guarantee she KNOWS I don't give a damn about her anymore like I "used" to. So it's almost as if she is trying to recover.

She's LJBF'ed numerous kids in one month alone, and has never talked to them again. Yet she texts me everyday, and keeps hinting to meet again everyday, because I have kept myself away from her for months, and have felt great about it.

She REALISES I am not like I was before, hence her "You never message or call me anymore...". Obviously I'm not letting myself fall, so thats no problem.
 

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Also, on Facebook, she keeps writing status' that are always familiar to me, which refer to what we always talk about, and they always spell me somehow (obviously she never says it directly that the status is for me, of course she wont, as wit anyone).

Like:

"Listen to the voice in your HEART"
"Never waste time..."
"Half of me says YES, other half is lost..."
"So close, yet so far..."
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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**** her and see where it goes from there
 
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