"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ok i think i got a date to our highschool junior prom with a complely super hott chick that is awesome and funny and everything i want, somehow i wasn't like over excited to the point of having a heart attack anyway, i asked her she said she would go with me but im not sure if its official some how but i think it is ok im just rambling now but I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO DANCE WELL LIKE REALLY WELL, i cant dance at all, so far at dances i just kind of moved around stepped a little bit and made it through by making routine stops at the punch line, ofcourse im a pro at the slow dance that shi* is easy but this chick is like awesome and i know she likes to dance sooo HELLLPPPPP? are there any websites or anything?

or dance tips?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OHHH AND THANKS SOO MUCH ITS LIKE 1 OCLOCK IM JUST SOO HYPER ANY HELP WOULD BE GREAT
 

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by the way, I looked on google and man....there are absolutely no dance websites. It sucks man... oh well. Better luck next time. :(
 

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I would suggest when you get there instead of starting to dance right away, you observe what everyone else is doing for a few minutes, and just copy them. Most dancing these days is just moving your arms and crap like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just freak her.

On this site I made at LEAST 4 different threads concerning dancing, cuz I suck at dancing and I look hella bad cuz I'm tall n lanky :)

But I practiced with this one girl beforehand, so I wowed my prom date.

You basically get behind your date, put your crotch in her ass, and move with her. Her butt goes to the left, you go with it. Keep her hands on your hips so you will know which way she is moving.

If she bends her knees slowly, go with her. If she bends them quick and pushes her ass up into your crotch (very common), lean back and enjoy it! (it feels great on your crotch!)

That's basically it. In slow-dancing, take slow steps clockwise; both your hands are on her hips/waist. Be sure to look into her eyes at least once for at least 4 seconds, smile, and release.

Write back!
 

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I'm not so sure that they'll allow grinding your date at prom :p

But yea, don't worry about it. The less you worry about dancing on the dance floor, the better you look.
 

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It's easy to learn to dance... just watch napoleon dynamite and memorize all his moves.
 

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Thank you all so much, i just want my night with her to be great, do you really think i could do some of napoleans moves? also are school is real big and at the dances everyone is grinding all up on eachother so thats deffinately alloud.

ok i better get dancing

thanks again
 

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buddy, if grinding is allowed, just grind. It's so simple anyone can do it.

You go up to a girl and basically hump her to the bass line just either grab her hands or put your hands on her hips. It's not hard... Just grab a pillow, put on some crappy hip hop they always play at the dances. Hold it to your crotch area and practice thrusting your hips to the beat.

Simple as that
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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that sounds simple i just hump her butt?
hahahaa
maybe im making it harder then it really is
 

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Originally posted by theNEWDJ
that sounds simple i just hump her butt?
hahahaa
maybe im making it harder then it really is
Depends where you live. Pray to God there's no Merengay or Salsa or Hip Hop. Then you're screwed.
 

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Fat uncoordinated lifeless slobs of human waste can dance.

Why can't you?

Listen to PiHiPLaya, do the pillow thing. Move left to right with the beat.

You'll be fine dude. Practice with the pillow. The pillow moves left, move your crotch with it. Pillow moves right, your crotch is right behind it.

In my area, freaking aka grinding is the ONLY real kind of dancing.

If you want some regular, non-freaking related dancing steps, I will make a video for you shortly.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
Fat uncoordinated lifeless slobs of human waste can dance.
So why can you dance?
 

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thanks again guys i am glad people are trying to help

a video AC/DC?

also i just found out today that she is better at dancing then i thought, we were talking and she brought up that she has dance tonight and she also told me that she has been dancing for awhile. :eek:
she doesn't know i cant dance but im not about to stick my dong between my legs and give up just yet... ill keep practicing with a pillow haha

thanks again
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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