"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yea yea ex gf

Swede54

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****s wierd guys, im not sure whats wrong with me. We've been broken up for months and shes ****ed up to me, and i stopped talking to her. Yet i still have nightmares where we went up together again as if i want it. Other day i sent out a bulk email to all my friends list talking about my bands upcoming show, and she was on the list and i forgot. I got a email back saying "**** off, mr.vans". Which is funny i didnt know she paid so much attention to what shoes i wear when i havent atlked to her in 5 months... ha
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Swede54

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however i replied with a very neutral response. I figured hating her is pointless, and gives her to much. Hates like a curved blade, neutrailty is the route to go it seems.
 

Wiesman44

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Bump ? What do you expect us to say to you ? Sounds like your getting along with life fairly well without her.
 

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there should be a forum for people driven by "the one" cuz i'm seeing more and more convo's lately about ex's. no problem with that, but now i just cringe about the whole thing cuz i think the whole soul mate thing and all that was such a facade.

when i finally woke up and saw the way things worked, then i was able to really focus on the advice and information given on this site. I really feel sorry for the people who still pine after an ex that dumped them for some other guy because he wasn't good enough, but "she's perfect" so he can't move on. Hate to sound like a dyck, but really love just messes with you. If you're not careful and can't control it, someone always gets burned.

typically you just get stuck thinking about that one person you had "history" with instead of focusing on the next step in your life. that chapter should be done and the best thing to do is see if you made mistakes and then correct them and move on.

now i pretty much just went on a rant there which probably doesn't apply to your situation, but it's good to know why it's best to move on and then move on. far too many guys i talk with find REASONS to LOOK for things to analyze, they just don't wanna look for someone new and it sucks to try and help someone that don't get it.

btw, funny how girls can be complete bytches like that. my ex gf told me a good 3 months ago to f' off cuz i jokingly left a message on her site about a band she likes coming to town.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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