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Thanks to the wonderful moderators, my account has been reactivated! :D
Anyway onto the point of the thread...
Over the past few days, a few people have told me that I talk WAY too much and my voice sounds gay. What can i do to fix this?
Also, how can I obtain an aura of calmness and cool?
Thanks in advance...Ben
 

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Shouldn't this be obvious? Slow down your speaking and talk deeper. Duh. I mean, come on dude...

Also, those wonderful moderators are the same ones who closed your account in the first place. You don't have to suck up.
 
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Nah, it wasnt closed. I couldnt activate it automatically. anyway.

Slow down speech and talk deeper.
But what about speaking too much? How do I know when I am speaking too much or too little? Should I only speak when spoken to or something?>
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
Nah, it wasnt closed. I couldnt activate it automatically. anyway.
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My mistake then, I guess.

Talking too much? Well if you hear your voice more than anyone else's, then you're probably talking too much. Just relax, there's no reason the person needs to know everything about you right away. Keep some mystery.
 

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My mistake then, I guess.

Talking too much? Well if you hear your voice more than anyone else's, then you're probably talking too much. Just relax, there's no reason the person needs to know everything about you right away. Keep some mystery.
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Nope my fault, for no explaining properly, dont worry about it.
Thanks for your reply. Well, since it's half term here, I have a week to change myself abit. Like my speech and etc. If anyone else has advice, please, feel free to give it to me. Everything helps :up:
 
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If it's what I think it is, talking too much can be a sign of trying to gain someone's approval. Don't try to gain anybody's approval when communicating with someone, just let the convo flow naturally.
Or it could mean that you talk while giving too much info. When talking about anything try leaving behind the irrelevant details.
 
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any other advice? also, any idea where I could find an online voice class or something?
 
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You can't change THAT much in a week, but go get some new cool clothes, get a good haircut, and get started on a workout program if you haven't already.

Remember, you are only 14. You still have a LOT of growing up to do. I am a completely different person now even from when I was 18.
 

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Come on, we all sounded gay at 14.

It's always best if you talk a lot though. Don't listen to the guys that quote robert greene, it's BAD ADVICE. She wants a social guy, not a boring man of few words. The less ya talk, the less she cares. That is unless your going on about boring sh!t noone cares about, stop that. Just try not to sound gay.
 
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Lol. Ok, thanks guys. Well. I've been looking at ALOT of advice on working out. and I'm going to work out from now on. I'm going to try and deepen my voice. Maybe that will help
 
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