"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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****y girl out-doing me lol, help!

unnamed04

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I've been reading these forums for a while now, but havn't needed to post until now, so here it is!

Ok, the background. There are two girls in question, A and B, who are strangely enough, good friends. I work with them both.

I was at a party a while back and A wanted to hook up with me (I didn't realise at the time AFC to the max; I found out tonight when she called me when she was drunk, she also mentioned that she thought that I hooked up with B then) but I was sorta into B at the time (the start of some minor oneitis, but i'm over it now i hope).

So 2 weeks foward, i've been workin on B. I spoke to her on the phone for a while once (oops) and she's called be a few times since then and we had a short chat. I havn't really spoke to her much in the past 3/4 days, i've cut off contacting her. At work though, she sorta gets my sometimes with some good calls which I can't think of any responses :mad:

For example I might ask her to do something (part of the job) and she might say "not for you" in her own little ****y way. Ok, I can only think of that at the moment, but I know that she is into me (A told me today, she was a little jealous, beacuse she thought that me and B got together at that party), so I need some sorta things to say to seal the deal.

I guess the oneitis is sorta there, but the other half, I just wanna get some practice.

B also, is a huge fan of saying, "did you miss me?". I don't know what to say to that. One time I said "I missed you as much as you missed me" and she said "well then I didn't miss you because you didn't miss me". Like seriously the stupidest convo's but I got nothing lol (oh the truth hurts :D)

In the end I would prefer to have B. B knows that I could have A, so perhaps I should and leave B thinking about it? Arg! Time to sleep!

I totally understand if that did not make any sense :)

Thanks for any tips/help you can give.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ohiofutballa

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well you are in a predicament, but its a good one. it seems that either one of these girls could easily be yours...you say you are leaning toward B so then you know what you want. By the way the 3/4 day break was a good idea, so call her up and ask what shes doing this weekend and take her out..it will keep her guessing because you cut off contact then asked her out.

But you say you both work with these girls...ive had some experiences that made work extremly fun :p but extremely difficult after the fling had ended, i dont konw what kind of work enviroment your in, but i would think about it before i asked her out.

hope this helps...Good Luck
 

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Grats on signing up.

Stop worrying so much. Stop caring so much about saying the perfect thing. Just let everything flow!
 

Porky

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embrace your sexuality.
 

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You're lucky to have this ****y girl. You can practice your ****y and funny with her and improve. Try and beat her in these '****y remark fights' and don't be afraid of the occasional failure. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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