"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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****y girl out-doing me lol, help!

unnamed04

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I've been reading these forums for a while now, but havn't needed to post until now, so here it is!

Ok, the background. There are two girls in question, A and B, who are strangely enough, good friends. I work with them both.

I was at a party a while back and A wanted to hook up with me (I didn't realise at the time AFC to the max; I found out tonight when she called me when she was drunk, she also mentioned that she thought that I hooked up with B then) but I was sorta into B at the time (the start of some minor oneitis, but i'm over it now i hope).

So 2 weeks foward, i've been workin on B. I spoke to her on the phone for a while once (oops) and she's called be a few times since then and we had a short chat. I havn't really spoke to her much in the past 3/4 days, i've cut off contacting her. At work though, she sorta gets my sometimes with some good calls which I can't think of any responses :mad:

For example I might ask her to do something (part of the job) and she might say "not for you" in her own little ****y way. Ok, I can only think of that at the moment, but I know that she is into me (A told me today, she was a little jealous, beacuse she thought that me and B got together at that party), so I need some sorta things to say to seal the deal.

I guess the oneitis is sorta there, but the other half, I just wanna get some practice.

B also, is a huge fan of saying, "did you miss me?". I don't know what to say to that. One time I said "I missed you as much as you missed me" and she said "well then I didn't miss you because you didn't miss me". Like seriously the stupidest convo's but I got nothing lol (oh the truth hurts :D)

In the end I would prefer to have B. B knows that I could have A, so perhaps I should and leave B thinking about it? Arg! Time to sleep!

I totally understand if that did not make any sense :)

Thanks for any tips/help you can give.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ohiofutballa

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well you are in a predicament, but its a good one. it seems that either one of these girls could easily be yours...you say you are leaning toward B so then you know what you want. By the way the 3/4 day break was a good idea, so call her up and ask what shes doing this weekend and take her out..it will keep her guessing because you cut off contact then asked her out.

But you say you both work with these girls...ive had some experiences that made work extremly fun :p but extremely difficult after the fling had ended, i dont konw what kind of work enviroment your in, but i would think about it before i asked her out.

hope this helps...Good Luck
 

LikRetsam

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Grats on signing up.

Stop worrying so much. Stop caring so much about saying the perfect thing. Just let everything flow!
 

Porky

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embrace your sexuality.
 

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You're lucky to have this ****y girl. You can practice your ****y and funny with her and improve. Try and beat her in these '****y remark fights' and don't be afraid of the occasional failure. :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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