"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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X-BF in the way [PART 2]

CoRVeTTe6699

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if you read my last thread, you'd know that my girlfriend constantly talks about her XBF, and has photos him him in her room..and recently said she was going to hang out with him..

well i had a talk with her and she said she won't hang out with him cuz she cares about me.. wht do u guys think...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Now you gotta let her know that its not cool with you without sounding insecure.

And it DOES sound like your insecure about it, but i would be a bit too... i admit.

So i say, FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE!

Start carrying around a picture of an ex or a good looking female friend in your wallet, show it to her, ask her what she thinks of the girls style because you dig it alot.

Start talking about your ex girl or other chicks your seeing, she will get jealous trust me. She will either get the hint, or get pissed off about it and your relationship will turn sour in which case it doesnt matter because not seeing the ***** is better then seeing her and hearing about her douche bag ex/bf all the damned time.
 

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Well what'd you say? Get into specifics man. In order for us to help you, you gotta make us kinda get the feeling that we were actually there. Anyways, when she was making all these (possibly empty) promises, I would have said:

[INTERRUPTING HER] Stop telling me what you're going to do and show me. It's either him or me. I don't have time for games.

And if she's like "oh yeAh? you can't leave me!!" You'll just go, "try me." All with confidence of course. I mean, losing her isn't even counted as a loss. Kinda like dropping dead weight.

And sometimes they even go "you're just a control freak!!! yaaa!!!!" You calmly, but surely reply, "I'm a man and I don't take crap from anyone. If that's your definition of a 'control freak' then I guess I am one."
 

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riiiight so she's just gonna stop?

yeah i got fed the "i care about you a lot, you only get two important people in your life"

pshhh her actions will speak louder than her words ever will, in fact wait until she starts blowing you off saying stuff about emergencys or this and that happend.

:rolleyes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Go back to X-BF in the way [part1] and read all the posts again.

If you still want to hang out with her, it's your problem!
 

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If you stay with her - watch very closely for signs of her meeting or seeing her ex.

Don't do this in a crazy way - i.e. Mr. Snooper. but keep a look out.


1st sign of her meeting him - NEXT>
 
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