"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wth, was this a joke or serious?

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I don't if my GF was serious or not

we had a phone call yesterday, and I let her know that I got her a minion

she then goes "Is that to try and stop me from breaking up with you?"

... I said "No" and she went "I'm only joking"

I don't know what to think.

The thing that's bothering me the most is that before she even "joked" about the breaking up part this happened:


Me " Do you want the 2 weeks of space? "

Her "Why? I've missed you"



Why would she say she 'missed' me, but then joke of a break up??:cuss:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Relax...girls, will tease you hard to see if you're a man that can take it. Don't show her you're not. Blow it off, and if she wants to break up, show her the door. Never be afraid of it.
 

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VladPatton said:
Relax...girls, will tease you hard to see if you're a man that can take it. Don't show her you're not. Blow it off, and if she wants to break up, show her the door. Never be afraid of it.
See that's it! My GF and I always tease each other, because it's fun, because we get off to it, because it turns us both on - weird huh?

But the fact that we had an argument a week ago, that things are starting to clear up well and she drops this "break up" joke ... it's not too kind on the skin.

I won't bring it up and I definitely will let it blow over ... but it's just a bit of a low blow tbh.:nervous:
 

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Oh yeah...females have a natural mean streak that can come out when you least expect it. Ask any divorced guy.
 

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VladPatton said:
Oh yeah...females have a natural mean streak that can come out when you least expect it. Ask any divorced guy.
So, what I'm getting, is that I'm blowing this ****e out of proportion (as per usual :crackup: ) ...

I really need to teach myself not to over react like a chemistry experiment gone wrong - ****.

Any advice you can give to take our relationship back on track?

Thanks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bible_Belt said:
Never take a woman's words seriously.
The ' I'm joking ' part, or the ' Is this your way of stopping me breaking up with you '.

It'd be nice if you could be clearer :)
 

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Dodgypirate said:
she then goes "Is that to try and stop me from breaking up with you?"
Bro if she can rattle you with one sentence, what are you going to do when she really wants to make your head spin?

You took it seriously and now she knows how to push your buttons if she wants to get a reaction out of you.

You got to Agree and Amplify. :up:
 

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Trump said:
Bro if she can rattle you with one sentence, what are you going to do when she really wants to make your head spin?

You took it seriously and now she knows how to push your buttons if she wants to get a reaction out of you.

You got to Agree and Amplify. :up:

Yeah I realise now I should've brushed it off and joked with her ... kind of stupid, I know.

But it's just a joke, right?
 

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Never take a woman's words seriously.

Dodgypirate said:
It'd be nice if you could be clearer :)
Never take any of a woman's words seriously. Whether she's saying she loves you or she hates you, she's talking about her emotions. And those emotions change as easily as the wind changes directions.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes she was joking. Thick skin bro! Just a little sh*t test to see if you get all emotional.
An ex of mine, we would joke like this too. Well up until I dumped her, bad behavoir, too much drama etc.

Judge her by her actions & behavoir...not words.
 

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hockeyfreak79 said:
Yes she was joking. Thick skin bro! Just a little sh*t test to see if you get all emotional.
An ex of mine, we would joke like this too. Well up until I dumped her, bad behavoir, too much drama etc.

Judge her by her actions & behavoir...not words.

Aye sir ... I ****ed up, I over reacted. I didn't get emotional though, so don't worry about that.
 

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Dodgypirate said:
she then goes "Is that to try and stop me from breaking up with you?"
"No babe, it's a goodbye present".

Snap! Gotta match wit with wit.
 

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Thorninmyside said:
"No babe, it's a goodbye present".

Snap! Gotta match wit with wit.
Lol, that's the best response I've heard so far.

Yeah, I overreacted :/
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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