"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WTH?? Girls Getting Clingy.

PimpOfTheSouth

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The last two women I have talked to have gotten extremely clingy. After just a week both girls want a relationship and are calling me baby and all this stuff. How can I avoid this?? Im not into getting a relationship right now, any advice on how to work with this kind of situation?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

speakeasy

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Don't see them more than once a week. Preferably on weeknights only.
 

Cinamon

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Be open with them right from the start, are you giving off the vibes that you want to be in a relationship?
 

Warrior74

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They are happy, and they want to keep the source of that happiness. This is where you want them to be.

This is why Player Supreme teaches you how to spit your contract to a chic to let her know what you expect and what you are looking for. Did you do that?

Also know this. If you do not commit to a square relationship (LTR) then she will eventually blow out (leave). They will eventually leave. I repeat. They will eventually leave. And date someone else, and might be bitter, or might try to rub it in your face, or date one of your friends, something to get a reaction from you. expect it.
 

Lust

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Cinamon said:
Be open with them right from the start, are you giving off the vibes that you want to be in a relationship?
Yup, pretty much it.

Be completely honest with yourself and ask yourself what it is that you want, WHY you want it, and how you should behave to achieve it.

Then, lay your sh*t out on the table, be 100% genuine about it.

I literally sit the girl down and tell her upfront exactly what i'm up for and what i'm not, e.g. not just simply a fvck buddy/awesome connection/great friend i can be down with without bs fake fluff/nothing relationshipy AT THE MOMENT.

It's important to be clear about what you want, but leave that little room for her hope to simmer. I find that if you are too brutal they leave before they've had the chance to invest in the relationship enough.

Yer, you lose some but the ones you keep are generally the most awesome girlfriends you'll have.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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By the way you were talking I guess I just assumed you were hittin both of them.. Generally once you start smashing guts, she's gonna get emotional and clingy, unless she is one of a VERY SMALL number of women who can handle sex without any feelings..
 
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