"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Was supposed to go out with this chick that approached ME at a club a couple weeks back. At the club she walks up to me and starts chatting me up all while leaning into me and ****, then she grabs my hand and starts leading me around the club while grinding the crap outa me. We were only together for a 15 to 20 min before her ride pulls her away and I could see and kinda hear them argueing about her really wanting to stay and her ride wanting to leave cause she was sick. So we exchanged numbers and she left.
I gave her a call last Wed to set something up for today. When I called she said she was at work and she would call me when she got out. So she calls me back and I asked her if she wanted to tag along to the drag races for today and she said sure, but instead of setting up a time and place to meet right then my dumbass told her I would give her a call later on in the week to set that up but we we both agreed to do it this sat.. So I called twice earlier in the week left a message once and got nothing back.
This is the second chick in a row who made the 1st approach and showed alot of interest only to stand me up or not return my calls as soon as I show any interest back.
The 1st chick that did this **** tried to get me to go out with her for nearly 2 months before I finally asked her out. The ***** stands me up twice before we actually go out (I only did that cause I was a dumbass and didn't have any other prospectives I was interested in) and then she agrees to a 2nd date but manages to skirt around setting anything up. WTF am I doing wrong here, these chicks shoulda been in the bag since they were the ones who approached me! Do I just naturally attract flakes?!?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Next time just tell her what YOUR plan is right off the bat, and if she doesn't like it, too ****ing bad.

75% of girls at clubs are just attention *****s and/or flirts, so don't take it personally.
 
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Nothing exceptionally bad or incorrect as far as I can see.

You just have to accept she was in the "club" moment when she approached you, probably running on higher emotions and thinking a whole lot differently than how she does outside of that environment.

Do I just naturally attract flakes?!?
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Yes, we all do if we are any good at this stuff.
 
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Ya I see what ya'll are sayin, but it's really not her in particular that bothers me, hell I've been approached by chicks before and more than likely I will be again, it's just the fact that this **** is reoccuring with not just one chick but several, and the 1st one I didn't meet in a club.:confused:
 
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Was she drunk? Because if she was then drunk girls tend to hit on a guy pretty hard at the club, the next day they are fine talking to them on the phone and then a few days later they realize they dont know who the heck you are and they are afraid of actually giving it a shot with some random dude that they danced with and spoke to meanwhile they were drunk at the club...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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club / bar girls suck. Meet girls through friends. Its a lot better.
 
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