Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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WTF is wrong with me?

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muffin

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This girl I was seeing recently ended things with me. I'm not fully sure I know why but I'm guessing it has something to do with "baggage" I have. She swore that my baggage wouldn't be a problem but it often was too much for her to

deal with. I'm with somebody else now who is better in almost every way but I can't seem to get this other girl out of my head. It's to the point that I'm feeling depressed. I'm sure I'll eventually get over it but any advice on ways to speed up the process would be greatly appreciated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have you totally cut off communications with the other girl? You need to get space from her, emotionally, physically and mentally. If this new girl is so great, why are you still thinking of the old one? Is the new one a 'rebound'?
I'm still not totally over the LTR I had that ended in May of this year, so believe me, this stuff is like a hangover, the only cure is time.
 
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Well look at it like this. Forgive yourself and forgive her and believe it was the best thing for both of you. If you beat yourself up about it youll either lose the girl you have now or go back to the other one....which doesnt sound like the option you really want.
 
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I agree with D-Rock and Darkshade. Out of sight and out of mind. If you don't follow that, you're running the risk of ruining your current relationship. Just forget her.
 
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