"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WTF is wrong with me?

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muffin

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This girl I was seeing recently ended things with me. I'm not fully sure I know why but I'm guessing it has something to do with "baggage" I have. She swore that my baggage wouldn't be a problem but it often was too much for her to

deal with. I'm with somebody else now who is better in almost every way but I can't seem to get this other girl out of my head. It's to the point that I'm feeling depressed. I'm sure I'll eventually get over it but any advice on ways to speed up the process would be greatly appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have you totally cut off communications with the other girl? You need to get space from her, emotionally, physically and mentally. If this new girl is so great, why are you still thinking of the old one? Is the new one a 'rebound'?
I'm still not totally over the LTR I had that ended in May of this year, so believe me, this stuff is like a hangover, the only cure is time.
 
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Well look at it like this. Forgive yourself and forgive her and believe it was the best thing for both of you. If you beat yourself up about it youll either lose the girl you have now or go back to the other one....which doesnt sound like the option you really want.
 
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I agree with D-Rock and Darkshade. Out of sight and out of mind. If you don't follow that, you're running the risk of ruining your current relationship. Just forget her.
 
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