"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wtf is WRONG with me haha I need a push from you guys.

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I started my new classes last week at college.

I went to class smelling good, hair looking real good (I got longish curly hair)
Dressed well, jeans and wide vertical pinstripe collared button up shirt.

My psychology class is composed of 80% females and a good chunk of them are good looking.

There is 1 in particular that grasps my attention to an extreme.

why?

Because she just is very cute too me, and definitely in my league...I'm a 7 shes a 7 sorta thing.

Now the thing is, she keeps looking at me with every opportunity provided. Obviously this is an IOI....or if it's not it most likely is.

We've locked eyes quite a few times, and I have failed to smile or even so much as say hi. Now I know this is very outrageously stupid of me, because I basically have a "Hey how are?" from her to me with the eye contact going on so much.

It's sort of a deep gaze, and I make sure she is the one that looks away first...I'm sure I don't have some sort of threatening/creepy vibe in mine just a mmmmm I'm interested sorta look.

We both leave class at the same time, and I noticed we always end up walking withing a very close proximity to each other on our way out....she usually catches up behind me and doesn't pass or sorta walks a little bit to the side of me. Now I sorta slow down to let her catch up but she doesn't pass me just lingers near/behind a little bit.

I should have already said hi to her at the very least...and I will next time, I need some encouragement....I noticed she parked near me as well (by coincidence) We both got in our cars and I looked over a few car lengths to her spot and she was LOOKING dead at me when she went to get in her car, as I was getting in mine...sort of a "through the windows of other cars" look. But it was def directed at me, and we locked eyes once again.

Now either she thinks I'm a creep or she is very interested or shy right? This is my best guess....and I realize I need to strike while the Iron is hot.

To sum it up every single times we have crossed paths we stare at each other right in the eyes more or less until she breaks the eye contact....we both have a sort of neutral face when we do. But its guaranteed that if it's possible for us to look at each other it happens.

For example, she won't look at other guys walking in the room like she does me...but say I get up in the middle of the class and leave for a smoke or whatever, I come back in and shes head down until I come in...and we just stare at each other till I pass.

ENCOURAGE ME, help me get my ass in gear.

And no not oneitis, she is just my favorite plate at the moment. haha, thing is I can game other girls easy as pie in my other classes :/

Sound like shes interested?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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maybe advice on what to say when I do man up and say hello!
 

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I've read it lol, I just need some sense pounded in my head.
 

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Dude your probably borderline creaper! You need to make a move before she starts flaking. You said it yourself you need to strike while the iron is hot. What your showing is lack of confidence to her, and that is not how you want to start things out! Next time you see her go straight up to her and say hi! Any more staring she probably is going to start to wig out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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lmao, this is true but she's just as guilty....she is looking at ME before I even look at her....it's actually in a funny way sorta creepy to me...if she wasn't hot I'd think she was a creeper.
 

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Yeah but in our society it is expected for the guy to make the first move, so you have to do it man. What if she is doing the same thing to guys in other classes? Then they make the move first and there you are SOL.
 

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true true...it's just the lack of smile or anything from her...sorta puts me off but I'm just as guilty because I'm not smiling but highly interested.

I guess the only way to find out is to just talk to her...
 

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Yep, and smile! I know I have problems doing it to when someone I think is hot is looking right at me.. I end up with this half assed smile that probably looks fake as hell(I'm working on it).. Just go up and break the ice, and for the first meeting do it when there is a time restraint. Like class is about to start or you have to go another to your car in another direction.. Leave her wanting more
 

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I was thinking when were walking out of class to our vehicles or whatever, I'd say "hey, we keep locking eyes and I felt the need to say hello...don't want you to think I'm a creep or something" and crack smile shake her hand and introduce my self "I'm nick, what's your name?" See how she responds to that and go from there....I'll be able to tell if shes interested in any further conversation by her body language/smile/receptiveness sound good?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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could add on the end of it "cause I was starting to think you were" to add a little more humor. But yeah that sounds pretty good
 

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lmao nice, yea....I don't think she views me as a creeper just yet....I got a really strong gut feeling that she is interested. But nice little bit of convo to add in at the end....will def get a laugh out of her if shes remotely interested :)


Anybody else got some input on this? It would be greatly appreciated!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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True....I dunno why I promised myself I'd say hi to her last class but I didn't....I'm geeking myself up for something so simple.
 

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Exhumed said:
Don't say "Because I didn't want you to think I was a creeper".
Even if you lack some confidence you should still display the confidence you do have.
Point taken.....what do you recommend? Just a simple hello? Or throw in the "we keep locking eyes" part as well?
 

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How the **** are you a Master Don Juan if you're asking advice on how to say HI? lol, just say hi bro. It's not that hard. Just pop a smile and say hi when she's looking at you (close proximity of course)
 

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Undispu7ed said:
How the **** are you a Master Don Juan if you're asking advice on how to say HI? lol, just say hi bro. It's not that hard. Just pop a smile and say hi when she's looking at you (close proximity of course)
Hahaha. It really is that simple. I'm just worried for you after you say hi.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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