The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
If you have so many options and are such a great state, then why are you losing people and why are your residents infesting places like Texas and the East Coast? If California was as nice as you say it is, wouldn't everyone want to stay there?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So in other words, California corrupts and intoxicates everyone. Yeah let's contain the golden cancer.
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Some people just can't hang, or it's too expensive for them so they leave... More Cali for me
Been anywhere else in the country?
Been to Canberra but that was just boring government buildings everywhere
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Right, I want to go on exchange to either Australia or New Zealand within the next 1-2 years so that's why I'm curious. I won't go to Melbourne or Sydney because of the crazy rents and commutes, as you've said. I can go to Adelaide, Brisbane, Canberra, Newcastle or Perth in Australia, or - because I think I like the polynesian chicks, assuming I can find a reasonable room rent - Auckland in NZ.
Sydney also has a large polynesian population (Tongan,Fijian and Samoan) I'm nit sure about the other regions.
