Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You need to loose this desperation or you will end up shooting yourself in the foot. Women have a "sixth sense" when it comes to reading men - one sniff of desperation and their off (or they'll just lead you on for a laugh). They pickup on it WELL - TRUST ME.Dhoulmagus said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
There's a difference between acting like you don't care and actually not caring. It's hard to explain but you'll know the difference when you get there.Dhoulmagus said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm really busy this semester, so I don't have dat dere time for that. Reason I accepted her to hang out on Thursday was because she was bugging me about still wanting to hangout. I don't get off work till 10, so idk what I'm going to do with her lol.TheCWord said:
When I was in college and I was only free after 10pm I'd usually tell a girl to just come over and watch a movie. Best part about being in college is that you're likely in a dorm or shared house so you often get to put the movie on in your bedroomDhoulmagus said:
I just said hang, but I'm probably going to do this. She texted me confirming, so I guess its happening lolTheCWord said:When I was in college and I was only free after 10pm I'd usually tell a girl to just come over and watch a movie. Best part about being in college is that you're likely in a dorm or shared house so you often get to put the movie on in your bedroom