"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WTF im nice ??? how can i change that?

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Sometimes when i try and hit on a girl 50% of the time they say " ahh ure so nice " now i know that women use the word nice to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestucomments, and mannerisms. SO if im attracted to this HB that im gaming do i need to be an ******* i want them to stop calling me NICE!!!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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come on seriously. I cant be that much of an a$$ should i just call her a piece of meat?
 

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DonS said:
You need to man up and build your self-confidence. This will start moving you in the right direction.
Totally agree, you're pretty much automatically being put in the "friends" zone. Especially if they're actually saying "youre so nice"

There's really not much you can do at this point. DonS is right, sounds like you need to build up your confidence and stop overthinking things.

You don't have to be an *******, but just stop being a pushover.

here's something i used that worked well. just as an example of being nice, yet being confident, even overtly sexual.

this isn't too long after i became a RAFC, i did have one good thing going for me though, i lost pretty much all my shame.

Girl i'm working with mentions she's hungry, i'm actually on my way to subway to get a sandwich, she happens to love subway.

The little bastard AFC in me tells me to buy her the sub, and she'll be grateful and like me.

My inner spanish Don Juan says "**** that **** ese, you've got 2 heads! USE THEM!"

so instead, i bought a footlong, cut it in half, and pulled it out in front of her, instead of my offering it, she asked me if she could have some. i teased her and grabbed the half meant for her and held it up, as she reached for it i pulled it away playfully. hell i even told her if she wanted it she had to bite it out of my hand. and wouldn't you know it, she laughs, leans out, basically gives me a hug and nuzzle as she bites it.

Big difference, yet i'm still being nice.

You don't have to be an ******* dude, just work on that confidence.
 

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so whats with this myth that says that girls are with guys that treat them like ****? is that myth overexagerrated to the point you just made about being nice but never offering just doing it in the act of the moment? or do women really actually like to be treated ****ty.?

i guess you cant be a jerk to the point of telling her that shes ugly or what the hell made you buy that shirt?,,, but you can definately be a tease like neg her in nice ways that are natural instead of trying to hurt her
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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so whats with this myth that says that girls are with guys that treat them like ****? is that myth overexagerrated to the point you just made about being nice but never offering just doing it in the act of the moment? or do women really actually like to be treated ****ty.?

i guess you cant be a jerk to the point of telling her that shes ugly or what the hell made you buy that shirt?,,, but you can definately be a tease like neg her in nice ways that are natural instead of trying to hurt her
 

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dude, seriously. i dont know why guys flip out over things like being called "NIce" on this board

My girl and all her friends call me the nicest guy ever. i just thank them, then proceed to take my girl into her room and Bang her lights out

so much for the Dreaded "nice" comment
 

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dude, seriously. i dont know why guys flip out over things like being called "NIce" on this board

My girl and all her friends call me the nicest guy ever. i just thank them, then proceed to take my girl into her room and Bang her lights out

so much for the Dreaded "nice" comment
i don't know why, but that's such a funny visual to me. :p

Nosir, i'm not a master, but my own experiences tell me that jerks get the girls because they're inadvertantly being attractive. they might get laid, but they'll never have a LTR with anything but a LSE girl, and even that will be only headaches.

This is why you get girls who tell their male "friends" about such a jerk boyfriend, say they wish they could find someone like that friend, then go home and gargle teh jerk's wang.

Remember, a girl wants attention. the minute they aren't getting it from someone they might find attractive in even the slightest sense, their world makes no sense. they NEED to get that attention. (IMO)

I think if you focus on what you're after, you could clear your mind a bit. Are you looking just to get laid? or do you want a LTR? and what kind of girl are you after?

From what you've said, i'm assuming you want a LTR with a decent girl. I'd suggest give playful teasing, a good amount of kino, and limiting yourself to good communication. (playfuil convos where you're hitting each other with straws or something, etc.)

at the end of it all, the best advice so far was teh first.

Man up and let your balls do the talking.
 
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