"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wtf happened?

haram

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ok well i had written a thread about a HB girl i was supposed to go on a date with tonight...anways this girl txted me all day yesterday and today and i also passed one of her test....the test i assume was that i ask her if 9.30pm was fine to pick her up.....she said 8.30....i said how about 9....she said no cause its too late and if not then we can do this some other day.... im trying to be a DJ so i told her i have a lot of **** to do and that she can wait the extra half hour and if not then i guess we can reschedule.....she said ok but no later than 9.....

anyways this was at about 5 and i got her adress so i could pick up her up and everything.....so 9 comes along and im at her house and i call her to come out and she dosnt answer....i called her again and once again she dont answer.....she then calls me back 1 minute later and tells me that shes so sorry and that she thought i wasnt going to show up...anyways we talk and she sees im really angered, and keeps telling me that she thought i wasnt going to show off since i didnt call her half an hour before to confirm i was on my way like all the other guys do...i told her im not one of the other guys and she says she knows cause i look like a guy who has a bunch of girls kneeling on my feet and that i didnt seem interested in her because shes the one that has to start every conversation and that guys usually give her a lot of attention..........anyways after about a 15 minute drive i take her ass back home and she says she can understand if i never wanna talk to her again.......how the **** do i play this off cause really want to **** her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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^ ^ This is interesting, but its too late for thinking... I'll hit it up in morning

PS
I see deeper issues than 'games' with this one... interesting indeed



-Cod3r
 

Bussey

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She has low self esteem. She's essentially playing the female version of an AFC.

I'd say call her tomorrow and say

'Hey, so yesterday didn't go off to well, haha, its cool I understand. But I want to see you this Saturday. (She says sure!) Alright, I'll be available earlier around 7ish, so I'll pick you up at 7:30. Cool see you then."

Edit: Notice the confidence in being able to text message lots. But then face to face she freezes up? Key sign she's interested, but not confident in herself.

May I also add that rather then **** and run... maybe try to build her up by keeping her around for longer then just the single ****...
 

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Could you have knocked at the door? Or do you mean 'call her' like over a security intercom?

If possible, knock on the front door, and don't be afraid of who might answer.
 

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well i couldnt knock cause it was like an apartment complex.....it was just weird that she didnt even try getting ready cause she thought i wasnt gonna show up cause i didnt seem interested....also this past week shes the one initiating the calls and the texts....does this girl want a guy that is gonna kneel to her and praise her, or does she want someone like me who sorta ignores her
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This girl has flake written all over her. When a women makes a date, then doesn't get ready because she thinks that you might not show up, then she has major issues. I would be turning and running the other way. I don't say this too often but she really has to earn her way back into your life.

Secondly you need to take her off the pedastool, just because she is hot and you want to bang her brains out, doesn't give her the right to treat you like seconds. This is your life, are you willing to be treated like a lackey for the chance to sniff some tail, and I mean chance because if you allow this behaviour to continue, you are not in control, she will totally run over you.

This women does not live up to her committments! Get that through your head. She makes a date, then stands you up. Your second problem is the way you reacted. You can't show your emotions like that. You can't let her see that she affects you that much. A DJ would have been fine with the situation, turned around and called one of his backups. You don't start dressing your wounds in front of the enemy to show them your weakness.
 

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haram said:
any other advice on what i should do?
bro what do you want to do. she has psycho written all over her but she might be a good lay. put on the helmet and watch out for psychochick womanease estrogen bombs.
 
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