Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Writing on my hand + sex question

faiNt`

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Two questions

Girl A wrote "I love 'her name' ..." on my hand .. is that mean she's interested or just sees me as a friend and it's a joke? I couldn't tell tbh.

Girl B gave me her number after I told her to and said we should hang out and I said I'd call her over summer. How do I let her know I don't want to have sex with her without acutally saying it, becuase that would be weird. She's already told me she would.

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EDIT:// Ok so today was last day of school, short classes basically everyone talking blah blah .. Girl A tells me to sign her arm cus she doesn't have a yearbook. I write something like "stupid idiot face" and sign my name. She laughs then wants to write on my shirt. She writes "I heart stupid idiot face" on my shirt .. that's two days in a row ..
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Uhm, you don't need to tell her "you don't want to have sex with her" unless she makes a move on you. Would you go around and tell your coworkers\classmates that you "don't want to have sex with them"? Of course not.
 

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faiNt` said:
Two questions

Girl A wrote "I love 'her name' ..." on my hand .. is that mean she's interested or just sees me as a friend and it's a joke? I couldn't tell tbh.

Girl B gave me her number after I told her to and said we should hang out and I said I'd call her over summer. How do I let her know I don't want to have sex with her without acutally saying it, becuase that would be weird. She's already told me she would.

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Girl A IS interested . Or was . I dont know .

I dont understand about Girl B . Why dont you want to have sex with her ? What you want her to say to you " I WANNA HAVE SEX " ?
 

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Daddy The Pimp said:
Girl A IS interested . Or was . I dont know .

I dont understand about Girl B . Why dont you want to have sex with her ? What you want her to say to you " I WANNA HAVE SEX " ?

So girl A is 100%?

And I don't want to have sex with girl B because I don't really like her. Don't get me wrong she's prolly a 7, but I don't really like her that much. She's fun though :crazy:
 

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ROFL , now i understood what you meant .

GIRL B

Just dont give her signs of interest . Always say to her that she's good friend , talk to her about other girls you like ask her about her boyfriends . This way you're going to end up in FRIEND ZONE .

GIRL A

Is not 100% . But these are flirty games. Give it a shot . Try .
Get her number , get out with her and do your moves :D .
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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With Girl A you need to be a little assertive here. Don't be so afraid of rejection, especially if you're not escalating as fast as others might. Go at your own speed, but make moves. Otherwise you're just not going to do it for her. Always hold frame.
 

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I have both girls' numbers already.

Girl A told me I wouldn't see her till next year unless I called her over the summer. I think I already asked this b4, but that's her way of telling me that she wants to hang out?

EDIT:// The thing is, most girls have to speak in f*cking code. Girl B DOESN'T. She says straight out what she is thinking. That's such a turn on .. I don't know why
 

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faiNt` said:
I have both girls' numbers already.

Girl A told me I wouldn't see her till next year unless I called her over the summer. I think I already asked this b4, but that's her way of telling me that she wants to hang out?

EDIT:// The thing is, most girls have to speak in f*cking code. Girl B DOESN'T. She says straight out what she is thinking. That's such a turn on .. I don't know why
Regarding Girl A: Dude, you're more oblivious than I was when I was 16, and that is pretty bad. How could you NOT realize that is a sign of interest? Call her as soon as you finish reading this post.

Regarding Girl B: I don't get it. You say what she's doing is a turn-on, but in previous posts you say you don't want to have sex with her.

My vote is hook up with them both all summer. That's what summer is for!
 

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You are obviously obsessed with girl A to be going so nuts over what writing on your hand means. Jesus. Girls mess about like that all the time, with me too, even if they don't fancy me. She might do though going by OTHER things you said, so yer hook up.

And with girl B, it should be pretty obvious how to not get into a position where you are having sex with her, answer: don't just sit there smiling as she takes your clothes off, or starts really going for it with you. If she makes a move on you, just use a girl move and say something like "I don't really think of you like that, sorry."
I'd def get with them both, it's just I don't want to go as far as sex with B, so I was thinking like if I was hooking up with her and she started to try it, what would I do/say to not make it akward as hell ..

I don't thinik I'm OBSESSED with A, but I do like her alot. I wouldn't really think much of this normally, but she did it again today (edited my first post)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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