"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ENIGMA16

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Same girl from here and here.

For those of you not interested in reading those threads, basically this girl is friends of friends and added me on Facebook (i.e. I've never met or even heard of her before). So we talk for a bit and hit it off. She lives like 30-40 mins away by my parents and where I grew up (I live in the city now, she lives in the burbs), but she had her 21st birthday celebration in Milwaukee and invited me along. So I went (this is where I first met her), we went on a brewery tour and met up with some more people at a restaurant, then went out to a bar. This night was pretty fun, but her ex who she was still hanging out with (and probably f*cking) hovered around her the whole time so I wasn't able to get any game in. Basically told her she owes me dinner because of that and some drama (see the thread).

So next time I see her was a mistake; only reason I went was because I thought it was this other restaurant that I've always wanted to go to. Anyways, so I fail miserably (see the last thread I made) and basically give up.

I don't hear from her in a while. She then started going out with her ex again. I've been pretty much no contact with her ever since. She then one day FB chat'd me saying "Hi I'm bored". Because I realized finally that she's basically been using me for attention I don't really want to talk to her again, so I don't respond. Over the next couple of weeks (this has been going on for 2 or 3 weeks) she has been sending me FB messages basically being like "Why aren't you talking to me?" "???" etc... In fact I just received one that says "sooo its really bothering me that you wont talk to me". I haven't responded to any and don't have any plans on doing so.

So I'm actually pretty amused by this. I'm kind of upset at myself for getting pleasure out of this, because I know that everything that's happened is due to me failing at gaming this girl, so I should take full responsibility, and my logical side acknowledges that. But I still can't help being pissed at her and deriving pleasure from this. :cool:

I guess what I wanted to know is, am I wrong for going no contact? What should I do from here? I'm at the point where I don't really care about this girl anymore, obviously, but I always love the input of this community. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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bookman

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actualy I think these are good signs, she's kinda chasing you, and she's thinking about you

I'm a noob but that is what I think
 
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Lol I'd say the ball is in your court now sir. It's up to you if you wanna toy with her a little bit, and get it in with her, or if you just want to cut her off completely. You are not wrong for no contact, on the contrary it's a really good thing. She realized she can't string you along like she wants so shes knocked off balance. I'd say next time you talk to her keep it short and aloof and it will drive her even more off balance. Let her give you more and more and more attention and you reward her little by little. Have fun with it.
 

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Meh I don't really care at this point. This girl obviously isn't high value (due to the distance and her overall sh!ttiness) so I'd only want a f*ck, and it seems like an awful lot of work for a f*ck.
 

ENIGMA16

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"well whatever F you I guess, I don't what the **** i did to piss you off but thanks for being a ****?? whatever ugh"

:p

Pretty sure I've turned the tables to the point where I could invite her down and f close her if I wanted. It's pretty obvious that this is just her trying to get me to respond. If she was serious about this she would have deleted me off Facebook. We'll see what she does in the next few days. I'm thinking about contacting her and just telling her to come down like nothing happened.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Diaforetikos

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If your gonna do it, do it as soon as possible. It seems like shes getting pretty irritated. I know she just wants the attention, and I know you really don't give a f***, but I think if you want to f*** her, you should say somethin before she blows you off.

And if she does blow you off, her loss. Haha. Dumb bia.
 
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