"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wow, talk about luck!

Alex DeLarge

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So the other night a few buddies and I hit the bars downtown. We were walking across the street to this club to catch a band playing. I spot this really cute girl, probably a HB8 outside.. I made eye contact with her and just opened with a "Hey how's it going".. Our conversation sprung up from there. We talked about music, art, all sorts of great things. She saw one of my tattoos and started touching my arm asking me where I got it done and things like that. So I decided to mirror her and kino back (she had a tattoo as well). We went inside and got a drink and she started touching my back.. We made more small talk and she eventually rejoined her little group.

Now I was about to approach her again, but I saw her with a guy who might have been her date. The guy was pretty big too haha.. Well, I wasn't about to get in between them and get thrown right across the venue and out the door, so I just stayed with my friends and we wound up having a great night anyways. Although I was kicking myself for not number closing when I had the opportunity.

Now today, just got outta work and I checked my FB page, and I have a message from the girl! She gave me her number and it turns out she's going to come watch me play an open mic night next week. Talk about lucky! haha.. Lesson learned, I will never fall through with a number close again! It's like striking out while looking at the ball.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Please explain to me where you got "lucky"

That is a successful APPROACH. You opened her as you should have and did well.

No luck involved.

GJ
 

Alex DeLarge

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Well, I got lucky since she got in contact with me.. I didn't number close and figured "Aw, what the fvck.. Oh well I'll get 'em next time".. That's never happened to me before haha
 
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