"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wow...i think i just had an AFC flashback

Noeltech8907

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Now i know i havnt posted much, but im not new and am no longer an AFC. But tonight i scared myself. A girl that i have been friends with sent me a text asking for a ride. But for about the past 7 months we havnt really talked other than saying hi in the halls, and the only time she would call me was when she needed things. Most of the time i would say no and on an occasion i would say yes (she is supposedly a friend afterall) but tonight i was fed up. So i called her and said

Me: hey
Her: hi
Me:well ill be honest with you. your a cool girl and i like you, but for a while now the extent of our friendship has been saying hi in the halls. Whats that? Nothing. So i dont feel obligated to go out of my way and give you a ride.
her:alrighty
me:bye

Now im guessing when you read that you felt a chill in your spine, because after i hung up the phone i did. You see i feel that i just pulled an extreamly AFC move. I should have just told her no. I dont know....seems like no big deal but i scared myself because i dont know where that came from and i dont want to go back to the AFC days.

....great now im paranoid.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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logicallefty

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Yeah, a quick and plain "no I can't" would have been best. But you did better than "sure, I'll be right there".. So :up: for that
 

THE_ADDMAN

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This is part of the learning curve

dont worry about it.

live and learn
 

kyphan

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You should have requested some road #e@d in exchange for your services.

(in all seriousness, stop worrying about it and do better next time)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MrS

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Not afc, pretty the opposite.
Ballsy.
Nice one.
 

Adakkon

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Not AFC, could have been handled better, but definately not AFC. I had some users like that in my life before I changed. Ironically they got together and had a talk about how I'd changed and was "an ass" a few months after I started coming here and changing my life. All I did was stop doing them all these little favors I'd been doing before in hopes of getting in their favor.
 

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noeltech8907 said:
well ill be honest with you. your a cool girl and i like you, but for a while now the extent of our friendship has been saying hi in the halls. Whats that? Nothing. So i dont feel obligated to go out of my way and give you a ride.
:crackup: :crackup:
 
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