Wow i dont get it.. This girl wont open up to me..

[NotaNewbie]

I cold approached a girl i got her number .. made small talk (built a lot of rapport after talking about a TV show we both liked) Then when i asked her to go out to dinner with me and she's like What makes you think i'll go to dinner with a stranger i hardly even know you.. so im like yea you're right you dont know me so come to dinner with me and maybe you'll get to know me better and she's like no thanks i said alright good night bye.

 

[Phyzzle]

Start with a small get-together. Coffe place or a bar, just for an hour or less. You're 1st date shouldn't really be a ,traditional date.

 

[silenthill]

damn you got treated

 

[The Shocker]

Buying temperature not high enough

 

[Big-J]

Too much Rapport, not enough varied rapport, not enough Attract. Hello Friendzone, NEXT!

Talking is good, talking right is golden.

You said most of your conversation was over a TV show. Did that teach you anything about her, or did you focus on what the girl liked about the show? Remember, in conversation, the women will give you many different avenues to lead the conversation into if you wish to venture.

 

[Docs]

Yep. You failed. You usually turn that one around by playing it down as her just not wanting an experience and that she's too closed up to follow though on her wants.

 

[The__Substitute]

Yep. You failed. You usually turn that one around by playing it down as her just not wanting an experience and that she's too closed up to follow though on her wants.

That's good.... I like that. I will have to remeber that one.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Rapport does not guarantee interest.

 

[Wyldfire]

Rapport does not guarantee interest.

Rapport and interest aren't really significant in the beginning when you first meet someone. Attraction is what's most important when you first meet someone. You've got to have the attraction first, then rapport and if both are there it should lead to actual interest.