MatureDJ
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She's not really advocating polygamy, per se, only that women can marry whomever they choose, including, presumably, baboons, zebras, trees, imaginary people...MatureDJ said:
It's a very good reason. The nuclear family is the bedrock of our society and one of the main reasons for the decline of the US is the fact that women simply don't work as hard as men and most men don't feel the need to work hard if they don't have a family to take care of.zekko said:I've never understood why polygamy is illegal in the first place. It's supposed to be a free country after all (ROTFLMAO). Who is it hurting? The only explanation that makes any sense is that they want to control men by keeping the betas pacified by guaranteeing them a woman apiece. I don't think that's a good reason though.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I agree with you about the decline of the nuclear family. But I think a polygamous family is still a family. There's a father and a mother at least. It certainly sounds like more of a family than being raised by a single mother.goodfoot said:It's a very good reason. The nuclear family is the bedrock of our society and one of the main reasons for the decline of the US is the fact that women simply don't work as hard as men and most men don't feel the need to work hard if they don't have a family to take care of.
Don't ever disagree with zekko, but this time I do. Here is the very reason why polygamy should remain illegal. "Bleeding of the beast" as the FLDS would say (the beast being the federal and state governments).zekko said:I've never understood why polygamy is illegal in the first place. It's supposed to be a free country after all (ROTFLMAO). Who is it hurting? The only explanation that makes any sense is that they want to control men by keeping the betas pacified by guaranteeing them a woman apiece. I don't think that's a good reason though.
I completely agree with this post. I just envision a possible future where just like the top 1% control a lot of the money, they will "own" the majority of the women, at least the hot ones.zekko said:I agree with you about the decline of the nuclear family. But I think a polygamous family is still a family. There's a father and a mother at least. It certainly sounds like more of a family than being raised by a single mother.
Interesting. I didn't read quite all of that, but it sounded like a lot of the polygamist wives were on welfare. I found that a little surprising, since I would have figured that it would be the wealthy men who had multiple wives. Why would you marry that many wives if you couldn't support them?5string said:Don't ever disagree with zekko, but this time I do. Here is the very reason why polygamy should remain illegal. "Bleeding of the beast" as the FLDS would say (the beast being the federal and state governments).
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Fawn Brodie was actually excommunicated from the Mormon church for her writings. So much for free speech! No Man Knows My History, is the story of Joseph Smith and the forming of the Mormon church/faith. One of the finest non fiction books I have ever read.Scaramouche said:Dear 5String,
Liked your comments on Fawn Brodie,I really appreciated her book on Josiah Smith....She also wrote a magic book "The Devil Drives",on Sir Richard Burton,one of my heroes...He was someone who would have enjoyed this forum,one of his sidelines was researching sexuality....An amazing bloke,spoke 32 Languages,discovered the source of the Nile,translated Arabic novels like"Le Jardin Parfumier".....Sexy stuff in the nineteenth Century...Like many of us his wife was his Achilles Heel...In a fit of prudish pique,on his Death, she burned his unfinished works...A tragedy!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You'll figure it out when your harem leaves you to be Bill Gates 995th-1000th wives.zekko said:I thought most of the guys here wanted harems. Isn't this essentially what polygamy is?
Now, I'm not pushing for polygamy, it's not something I'd be interested in. In the current climate, I wouldn't marry one woman, let alone many. But I have yet to understand what is so wrong about it, or why it should be illegal.
So you're saying that illegalizing polygamy is just to protect the betas?goodfoot said:You'll figure it out when your harem leaves you to be Bill Gates 995th-1000th wives.
Many of the Biblical patriarchs practiced polygamy.scrouds said:I would love to study up on polygamy. off the cuff, I would think that it echos the traditional reason for marriage, trade security for babies. It does seem to allow a man with more options (wealth or game or whatever) to get more then monogamy, which would be a benefit.
I agree with this statement. My only problem with polygamy is that as a taxpayer, I don't want to pay for someones 16 wives and little urchins with foodstamps and welfare.samspade said:I think you should be allowed to marry whomever you want. Actually ideally marriage shouldn't involve the government at all!
zekko said:I've never understood why polygamy is illegal in the first place. It's supposed to be a free country after all (ROTFLMAO). Who is it hurting? The only explanation that makes any sense is that they want to control men by keeping the betas pacified by guaranteeing them a woman apiece. I don't think that's a good reason though.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.