"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Would you take someone else's girlfriend?

Would you "steal" a girl who is taken if you liked her?

  • Yes, I believe in a free market system.

    Votes: 34 59.6%
  • No, it's unethical and out of bounds.

    Votes: 23 40.4%

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Would ya? Assuming the guy is not your friend ofcourse.

When I say taking another guys' gf, I don't mean cheating. I mean she breaks up with him and then goes out with you. And the intention is to have a relationship with her.

And that's how the cookie crumbles.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sexy_kuta

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i wouldnt

i think thats disrespectful...

its like a mutal respect man.. what if someone takes ur girl

but if you choose your girl right then u sohuldnt worry about her leavin u for another man
 

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Well it depends

If I didn't like the guy and I wanted to piss him off then I would do it just for that.

If I actually wanted the girl as my girlfriend then that would be a bad idea because if she leaves or cheats on him for someone better, why wouldn't she do that to you?

If a girl has cheated once, there is a chance that she will do it again.
 

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If you set a bird free and it returns then it truely was your bird,if it doesnt return then....
I cant remember exactly how it goes.
 

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blinkwatt said:
If you set a bird free and it returns then it truely was your bird,if it doesnt return then....
I cant remember exactly how it goes.
lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unless the the first person hates the girlfriend's bf, I doubt it.

Usually don't pick up girls that are taken. Focus on the girl, not her status. Wouldn't purposely go out to find people's girlfriend to hit on.
 

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sexy_kuta said:
i wouldnt

i think thats disrespectful...

its like a mutal respect man.. what if someone takes ur girl
What if..? It means you have a new man to study and learn from, you shake his hand (if opportunity arises of course) and you take note.

Your frame of mind is assbackwards.

No chicks are your property to get pissed about if a better prospect takes them away, theyre simply visitors who you allow to stay for a bit and have a hot drink.
 

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Any girl who is so easily stolen from a relationship (provided that it isn't a really ****ty one) isn't worth stealing.
 

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I would never stoop so low that I would steal a woman away from another guy, unless I didn't think he was treating her properly and I have done that, but when another guy is your friend you just shouldn't do that type of thing, I treat my woman very well, so if another guy stole her away from me he would have to pay a very high price at my hands for doing such a shocking thing, but I could never hurt the woman that I love or a guy who has been a friend, but it would be the case of me never having anything to do with him again, :confused:
 

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im kinda shocked at those results......were all supposed to be brothers man. Theres enough girls out there then to have to take one from another man.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SnowBlind77 said:
im kinda shocked at those results......were all supposed to be brothers man. Theres enough girls out there then to have to take one from another man.
It's not about trying to steal another's girl. If you're doing it for the sole purpose of stealing, then yes it's a bad thing. But if you like a girl, then you simply present yourself to her and see if there's a connection, and it's unfortunate that she is taken.

It's like if a consumer walks into a car dealership and she sees only one car, she is stuck with it. No choices available. What taking another's gf means is you are showing her that there are other cars available and that she can choose you. Remember, it takes two to tango, and often the desired girls are taken.
 

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You can't steal a person. Apart from maybe Jimmy Hoffa.

Lots of women and ALL the hotties have boyfriends. Many, many women are serial monogamists who aren't single for more than a week, even if their bfs are just there to put up shelves and stop the woman from looking unpopular.

If she likes you she will go from his branch to yours, and you should avoid the ones willing to cheat before they swap, but if you next any woman with a putative boyfriend you will have a very small pool of women to choose from.
 

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I really don't give a crap...

There are two kinds of people on the planet...

-People i know and like
-everyone else

Everyone else being either a chick i want or some guy i really don't care about.

Now if it were the GF of a friend, that's another story. I don't go after a friends gf OR ex-gf for that matter... if i want to go after a friends ex, even if just for a screw, i'll make sure he's cool with that. Other than that, it's all fair game.
 

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I would and ive done it few times. And remember one thing. Girl wont let anybody to be stolen if she doesnt want to. I had sex with lots of women in relatios. Thats why i dont trust women at all.
 

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I can not agree more with Socialreject and MightyMate. That is exactly how I feel.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Im having this issue right now.
The girl has a boyfriend who is nice too her but a total bore to be around. Maby in private he is better I dono but even when he likes bikes and I started talkin to him about them (the one time he joined us to have some fun which he sat out mostly). he talked for a few minutes then just went cold again. Im not acting like im trying to get her from him but he seams to be doing the work for himself. I am fun and interesting so she likes to hand out with me. I always invite the guy but he always makes up some lame excuse. Im not wanting to break this up but if she figures out that she has a unstable rock for a BF... Its her choice right?
 

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Nighthawk said:
You can't steal a person. Apart from maybe Jimmy Hoffa.

Lots of women and ALL the hotties have boyfriends. Many, many women are serial monogamists who aren't single for more than a week, even if their bfs are just there to put up shelves and stop the woman from looking unpopular.

If she likes you she will go from his branch to yours, and you should avoid the ones willing to cheat before they swap, but if you next any woman with a putative boyfriend you will have a very small pool of women to choose from.
Exactly.....

You guys are completely missing the point. There's no "stealing a girl from a boyfriend". Or a real boyfriend anyway. Like another poster said, every girl has a boyfriend. If she can be stolen away, she doesn't have a real relationship. No one could steal my gf right now.
 

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If she and I had somehow developed deep feelings for eachother I can honestly say I'd steal that chick from any guy even a best friend.

A chick like that who will even entertain the ability for you to get close to her like that wasn't really happy in her current relationship anyway.
 
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I wouldn't do it now. I've have done it and have found that the guy can keep her cause in the end there's something wrong with her. And a real woman would stick by her man anyway. I don't need another girl who's out for the next good time.

Plus my theory is if she wants me she'll have to prove it. If she she can't, then NEXT!

ADKdj
 

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If I know the guy and he is cool, then NO WAY.

But if I don't, definitely. After all, having a boyfriend is hers problem not mine. LOL.

But OF COURSE this only apply to ONS/fvck buddies. I suppose no one is considering LTRs with girls like this.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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