"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Would you take her back in this situation

vinkoch

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Suppose you were not being ambitious and living up to your potential, procrastinating with important things. So she left you and eventually cuts you off for someone else or to move on easier. You get things going for yourself (not for her) and are doing well 1-3 years later and you're both single. She wants to give it another chance now.

Too late for her because she didn't have faith to stand by you until you took more action to get things going so she shouldnt be allowed to reap the benefits?
Or understand that she had to do what was best for herself out of self respect, and give it another chance?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kailex

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She was probably the reason you lacked ambition and weren't living up to your potential in the first place.

Why go back to that?
 

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Dear VinKosh,
Whatever ground you concede,exact some advantage...lf she comes back it is as a F'Buddy that's it...She is a Fair Weather Friend (FWF) I thing that deserved a new Acronym,just to annoy some pedantic Guys here LOL.
 

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vinkoch said:
Suppose you were not being ambitious and living up to your potential, procrastinating with important things. So she left you and eventually cuts you off for someone else or to move on easier. You get things going for yourself (not for her) and are doing well 1-3 years later and you're both single. She wants to give it another chance now.

Too late for her because she didn't have faith to stand by you until you took more action to get things going so she shouldnt be allowed to reap the benefits?
Or understand that she had to do what was best for herself out of self respect, and give it another chance?
If (when) you take her back, she will once again reduce you to a bumbling AFC loser and leave you for a second time. This situation normally works itself out naturally. Everybody here knows you are going to take her back, so it's sort of a moot point.

The best advice IMO would be to f*ck her, nut all over her face, then get up and walk out.

ETA: WOW, just a quick cursory look into vinkoch's posting history brings up some pretty telling red flags:

1 - He's married but has 2 girlfriends
2 - This particular chick has thrown him for a loop since July
3 - She's a farter
 

vinkoch

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speed dawg said:
If (when) you take her back, she will once again reduce you to a bumbling AFC loser and leave you for a second time. This situation normally works itself out naturally. Everybody here knows you are going to take her back, so it's sort of a moot point.

The best advice IMO would be to f*ck her, nut all over her face, then get up and walk out.

ETA: WOW, just a quick cursory look into vinkoch's posting history brings up some pretty telling red flags:

1 - He's married but has 2 girlfriends
2 - This particular chick has thrown him for a loop since July
3 - She's a farter

Divorced by my choice. Thanks. Not taking anybody back. Nobody has asked to be taken back other than my ex wife just before the divorce. Neither have I not been ambitious. Just a question I thought was interesting for the board because I watched a movie with this scenario. The farter is not my girlfriend, not my ex, and not the person in question.

But thanks for throwing in your two cents and letting the board know you're an expert on my life.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Epimanes

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Last of the Alphas said:
Yes, you go back to her. If you want to.

She left because she saw you as a man who lacked ambition.

Why would any woman stick around?

Don't blame her for leaving.
Exactly.. If you can't keep your shyt together how can you expect to keep a woman?
 

VladPatton

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Last of the Alphas said:
Yes, you go back to her. If you want to.

She left because she saw you as a man who lacked ambition.

Why would any woman stick around?

Don't blame her for leaving.

That may be true, but even then..you don't take her back and you find another girl. She already saw the sh!t side of you and she'll never forget it.
 
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