"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Would you say I'm too far behind to ever catch up properly?

Eternal_water

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I am 22 years old, Im a virgin and have had a total of 1 girlfriend my whole life for about 9 months.

I have kissed a total of 5 girls.

Thats all the action I've seen in my life, everyone else my age (and below) seems to have girlfriends and regular sex.

Do you think I'm at the point where I'm to far behind ever to catch up and have sex/a girlfriend?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Unless your d!ck stops working its never too late to catch up. I'm willing to bet there's alot more men in your situation than you think. Everyone likes to think that their problems are unique.
 

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I think it's two separate questions.

>Is it too late to have sex and/or a gf?

No. You can DEFINITELY still accomplish this. I mean this honestly.

>Is it too late to "catch up" to where other guys are dating/sex-wise?

You need to have more modest expectations in THIS area and try not to think of it as "catch up." It is pointless to compare yourself to the "naturals" that started fooling around with girls earlier than you.

I used to do that all the time. I tried to compare myself to where I "should be" women-wise relative to most men my age. I stopped doing that because it's not a fair comparison if they started at 16 and me at 27ish.

But can you still do well with the ladies? Sure.

Do you have any hobbies that you would enjoy, could build a skillset at, AND open up a social circle of women?

I'm taking dance for example.
 

Eternal_water

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Im good at a few sports, problem is not many girls do them.

Dance would probably be a good one, or learning an instrument.
 

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Thanks, I'm really good at my sport and I've been going to the gym for a while and taking protein bars as well and noticed an increase in strength and (very minor so far but still progress) muscle size.

I would like to learn an instrument though, hard to pick between violin and guitar, I'd prefer the violin but the guitar would probably be easier.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Eternal_water said:
I would like to learn an instrument though, hard to pick between violin and guitar, I'd prefer the violin but the guitar would probably be easier.
Ok, I have a feeling I know what your problem is simply by this sentence. You are undoubtedly a socially awkward nerd and, despite this weakness when it comes to women, you aren't socially aware either.

There's nothing wrong with the violin. In my opinion if God plays an instrument it's probably the violin. Or at least the fiddle when he's drinking. But in the practical terms of getting laid the violin ranks down near the recorder in baby-making potential. A guy who's not getting laid at 22 because he's a really nice and smart guy but socially awkward SHOULD pick the guitar. You don't even have to play much, just a couple John Mayer, Jack Johnson, or Dave Matthews songs and you are in.

You sound cool to me and I would never tell you to change your inner-self. But as a fellow socially awkward guy I know that the face you put out to other people (namely women and people at work) can't be your nerdy awkward face. That's for off hours. You need to develop a socially aware face that can smooth transitions at work and fvck time.

Edit: As for catching up with other guys...fvck other guys. You need to play your game and find your niche. Once you carve it out nothing will stop you.
 
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