"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Would you marry a woman with this attitude?

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This is a comment on an article that I have posted earlier, but since it's a classic, I just had to make a thread about it in its own right.

The original article:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/joelle-caputa/women-married-and-divorce_b_1077195.html

The fact is that women give up much more than men to get married, period, especially when children come along. Something most people dont like to think about and certainly dont like to talk about. In this country especially­, young women and young men are still socialized to the antiquated concept that homecare and childcare are a woman's domain and that the man is the primary provider. This idea is ingrained in us and fomented during our formative years that in our adulthood we actually believe this crap. Even in a household in which both partners work there the household duties tend to be weighted toward the woman. When women become mothers they are then expected to be super moms. The unequal divorce court results from these antiquated ideas that assume the mother is the better parent, no matter what. When fathers start actively and publicly parenting more, society's views about parenting will change and so too will divorce court and the rate of divorce.
And it gets better ...

Your sweeping generaliza­tion that women standing next tot heir partner to get married are being disingenuo­us is itself disingenuo­us. Further, there are A LOT of reasons people file for divorce. To judge someone for being unhappy and filing for divorce is just silly, youre not in their shoes. Why should women be forced to be unhappy? In this day and age, the reason more women file for divorce is because they have more opportunit­ies, they dont need men to provide financiall­y for them. A lot of women divorce because they end up with an unfair portion of all the duties and sometimes there is just no going back. They realize their unhappines­s will not be corrected without changing the situation they are in.
Oh, how I would love to come home to that! :trouble:

How much you want to bet that this chick will be going through the sperm donor catalog when she hits 35? :crackup: :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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