"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Would you guys go into a girl's work with the intent of asking her out?

Scion

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So I used to work with this girl who had a friend I kinda digged. The only problem is that she had a boyfriend. And they used to come into my work all the time to see her friend (I work at a bar). Her friend has since stopped working there and I don't see her coming in anymore.

But recently I heard through the grapevine that she's single (I still work with a couple girls that hang around her). Since I don't see her good friend anymore I'm not sure know I would go around contacting her. I've thought about going into her work but I'm not sure if that's too creepy. Thoughts guys?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
 

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Iceberg said:
It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
yeah, she works at a store I regularly go into (especially when I'm bored). That's how I found out she worked there, I literally ran into her there, lol (though that's when she was with her ex).
 

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Perfect then. You already know her, so you have a rapport. Why not fit some "I had a great night at (X Bar) last weekend." into the conversation. Then say, "Hey you'd love it there. Let's go next week." You get the number and work it from there.

Of course this girl is freshly broken up, so who knows if she's still banging that ex. But at least you'll get to the bottom of it (and hopefully her).

Anyway, nah I dont think this is a weird situation. You know what to do.
 

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Cool, sounds good. I'll ask her out the next time I run into her. Guess I was over thinking this a bit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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