"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Would you guys go into a girl's work with the intent of asking her out?

Scion

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So I used to work with this girl who had a friend I kinda digged. The only problem is that she had a boyfriend. And they used to come into my work all the time to see her friend (I work at a bar). Her friend has since stopped working there and I don't see her coming in anymore.

But recently I heard through the grapevine that she's single (I still work with a couple girls that hang around her). Since I don't see her good friend anymore I'm not sure know I would go around contacting her. I've thought about going into her work but I'm not sure if that's too creepy. Thoughts guys?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
 

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Iceberg said:
It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
yeah, she works at a store I regularly go into (especially when I'm bored). That's how I found out she worked there, I literally ran into her there, lol (though that's when she was with her ex).
 

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Perfect then. You already know her, so you have a rapport. Why not fit some "I had a great night at (X Bar) last weekend." into the conversation. Then say, "Hey you'd love it there. Let's go next week." You get the number and work it from there.

Of course this girl is freshly broken up, so who knows if she's still banging that ex. But at least you'll get to the bottom of it (and hopefully her).

Anyway, nah I dont think this is a weird situation. You know what to do.
 

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Cool, sounds good. I'll ask her out the next time I run into her. Guess I was over thinking this a bit.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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