"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Would you guys go into a girl's work with the intent of asking her out?

Scion

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So I used to work with this girl who had a friend I kinda digged. The only problem is that she had a boyfriend. And they used to come into my work all the time to see her friend (I work at a bar). Her friend has since stopped working there and I don't see her coming in anymore.

But recently I heard through the grapevine that she's single (I still work with a couple girls that hang around her). Since I don't see her good friend anymore I'm not sure know I would go around contacting her. I've thought about going into her work but I'm not sure if that's too creepy. Thoughts guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
 

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Iceberg said:
It's not ideal, but you gotta get her where she is.

Does she work in an environment where you can just stop by? Restaurant, etc? If she's an accountant, it may be odd to just pop in.
yeah, she works at a store I regularly go into (especially when I'm bored). That's how I found out she worked there, I literally ran into her there, lol (though that's when she was with her ex).
 

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Perfect then. You already know her, so you have a rapport. Why not fit some "I had a great night at (X Bar) last weekend." into the conversation. Then say, "Hey you'd love it there. Let's go next week." You get the number and work it from there.

Of course this girl is freshly broken up, so who knows if she's still banging that ex. But at least you'll get to the bottom of it (and hopefully her).

Anyway, nah I dont think this is a weird situation. You know what to do.
 

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Cool, sounds good. I'll ask her out the next time I run into her. Guess I was over thinking this a bit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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