She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I would give my seat up for the elderly, be it an old lady or an old man.Warrior74 said:Would you?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
like FVCK they are the weaker sex, if anything we are!Zarky said:I do it for the elderly or infirm. But yeah never for someone simply because they're the "weaker sex."
Julian said:Thats because us men live riskier lives and tear our bodies down harder.
Theres too many social dynamics and variations involved. For instance...
One day I was a couple stops away from where I get off (heh). all seats are taken and there was 1 dude standing and 1 chick standing. Before I got up i offered it to the dude (no homo) this was a strategic move. he shrugged like alright. I get up, an started talking to the girl, turns out she was getting off at my stop and I got those digits ended up smashing a couple weeks later.
another case where chivalry loses
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Unfortunately, what she failed to realize was that chivalry was based off of the girl being chaste, modest, and submissive. In other words, chivalry was based off of an expectation that the girl act a certain way.Jitterbug said:This one time I was on a tram, minding my own business when a young girl got on. There was no seat left, so she was standing up holding on to a pole. I was looking out of the window zoning out & didn't notice this. A middle-aged woman behind me told me to get up and offer her my seat, and before I could say anything, complained about me being a typical unchivalrous young male in modern time.
Yes indeed. Unfortunately not all men realize this or acknowledge it.Trader said:Now of course it is no surprise to any of us that girls follow only one rule, expediency.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Trader said:Unfortunately, what she failed to realize was that chivalry was based off of the girl being chaste, modest, and submissive. In other words, chivalry was based off of an expectation that the girl act a certain way.
No knight was running off to perform dashing deeds for sluts or drunken party girls.
Every ancient culture knew that you had to keep girls in check otherwise the civilization collapses.
This.horaholic said:Old men and women, and pregnant girls, and handicapped and injured. Thats who I'd give up my seat for. Anyone who would have trouble standing on their own. Never out of chivalry.