Would you give her a 2nd chance?

[RIDER]

Alright so a few years ago I met this deliciously raunchy lady at a one-off law course I was attending. I txt her later that week asking specifically for a date (it wasn't smooth AT ALL and I cringe just thinking about it I had AFC all over my forehead) she turned me down and told me she wants to be "friends". I pretty much thought **** that and didn't call back. That was my first major rejection and changed the way I approached women for a long time which is the whole reason for this dilemna.

A few months later we met up and had coffee where she brought a friend along. I acted like an ass and didn't say much and we parted ways. (I'll elaborate if anyone wants me to)

Fastforward 1 year.. we start talking again and she seems genuinely interested in me. She's been asking me out for "coffee" all month and I finally told her we'd do it this Friday.

Would you guys give it another shot or just next her? I was thinking I'd show up, play it cool and let her know I've got another lady I'm seeing on the side (true) and see how things go

 

[Machivelli]

Hello

The key here is what do you want out of this interaction. U seem to be focused on the outcome, fully understood, and I would go as far as to say you hold this girl in high esteem. Is it because she said no and now you have a 2nd bite at the cherry. If your seeing some else thats cool. Personally I would go and enjoy myself. If something happens bonus, but I wouldnt go to any pains losing sleep over it. There are loads of chicks for you to meet, connect and ****. I wouldnt bring up that Im seeing a chick as it sounds like your validating yourself to her. You should come from that place where you have many women in your life on a regular basis and its no big deal. Thats attractive. Treat like an old friend, build up the rappor, amplify attraction and even bring up the fact you once had a thing for her. That will communicate your comfortable with yourself to talk openly about your feelings. Good hunting.

 

[Black_Italian]

Bring up the im seeing a chik but do it subtlety dont say "I AM SEEING SOMEONE" slip it in somewere. She says:

Her:Mmmmmm i want to go to Cuba

You: oh realy the girl im seeing is from Cuba

LoL it could be a bit more subtle but you get the idea.

You might aswell give it a shot you got nothing to lose rember C&F and Mysterious.

 

[themanwithnoname]

Well the fact is you both never really gave it a real shot (dating) so go ask her out already.

 

[RIDER]

Re: Hello

Originally posted by Machivelli
The key here is what do you want out of this interaction. U seem to be focused on the outcome, fully understood, and I would go as far as to say you hold this girl in high esteem. Is it because she said no and now you have a 2nd bite at the cherry. If your seeing some else thats cool. Personally I would go and enjoy myself. If something happens bonus, but I wouldnt go to any pains losing sleep over it. There are loads of chicks for you to meet, connect and ****. I wouldnt bring up that Im seeing a chick as it sounds like your validating yourself to her. You should come from that place where you have many women in your life on a regular basis and its no big deal. Thats attractive. Treat like an old friend, build up the rappor, amplify attraction and even bring up the fact you once had a thing for her. That will communicate your comfortable with yourself to talk openly about your feelings. Good hunting.

Thanks man, I think all I needed was a little reassurance. I'm going to go with what you suggested - play it cool and treat her like an old friend.

.. and you're right I do hold her in high esteem because she was my first major rejection. Usually I'll see a girl and think "she's hot I'd love to bang her against a wall" but sometimes I see a girl like her where I dont even feel like trying because I'm intimidated. But I'm working on it.

 

[Machivelli]

cool buddy

When all is said and done, at least your taking action in your own life. Best of success. Look forward to hearing how it goes

 

[Kaparski]

She likes you
Not an AW (they give up flriting if u ask not interested or know what there doing)

go for it......sounds like ur in the honey pot

 

[RIDER]

Update:

It was supposed to be just coffee but I ended up taking her to this nice italian pizza place. We just caught up on whats been happening the last few years and hung out there for a while. Then went and played pool for a bit before telling her I've got other plans for the night

She sent mixed signals, probably my fault because I was feeling a little tired and anti-social so I didn't hold up much convo - she even asked why I was so quiet. I didnt know what to do about it but played it cool and kept the convo going

A really odd thing that hit me was when I went to pay for the pizza (it was only $15 for both of us so why not) she offered instead, but I said she could pay next time, she then said "let me pay because there might not be a next time". I paid anyway and acted like it was no big deal. But I felt like ending the night there can anyone explain that any way other than the obvious?

After we parted ways she sent me a txt saying she had fun and we should meet up again sometime

She is definitely my type of girl, but I don't know - we didn't hit it off as well as I'd hoped. I dont know if shes into me or not judging from tonight