"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alright so a few years ago I met this deliciously raunchy lady at a one-off law course I was attending. I txt her later that week asking specifically for a date (it wasn't smooth AT ALL and I cringe just thinking about it I had AFC all over my forehead) she turned me down and told me she wants to be "friends". I pretty much thought **** that and didn't call back. That was my first major rejection and changed the way I approached women for a long time which is the whole reason for this dilemna.

A few months later we met up and had coffee where she brought a friend along. I acted like an ass and didn't say much and we parted ways. (I'll elaborate if anyone wants me to)

Fastforward 1 year.. we start talking again and she seems genuinely interested in me. She's been asking me out for "coffee" all month and I finally told her we'd do it this Friday.

Would you guys give it another shot or just next her? I was thinking I'd show up, play it cool and let her know I've got another lady I'm seeing on the side (true) and see how things go
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hello

The key here is what do you want out of this interaction. U seem to be focused on the outcome, fully understood, and I would go as far as to say you hold this girl in high esteem. Is it because she said no and now you have a 2nd bite at the cherry. If your seeing some else thats cool. Personally I would go and enjoy myself. If something happens bonus, but I wouldnt go to any pains losing sleep over it. There are loads of chicks for you to meet, connect and ****. I wouldnt bring up that Im seeing a chick as it sounds like your validating yourself to her. You should come from that place where you have many women in your life on a regular basis and its no big deal. Thats attractive. Treat like an old friend, build up the rappor, amplify attraction and even bring up the fact you once had a thing for her. That will communicate your comfortable with yourself to talk openly about your feelings. Good hunting.
 
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Bring up the im seeing a chik but do it subtlety dont say "I AM SEEING SOMEONE" slip it in somewere. She says:

Her:Mmmmmm i want to go to Cuba

You: oh realy the girl im seeing is from Cuba

LoL it could be a bit more subtle but you get the idea.

You might aswell give it a shot you got nothing to lose rember C&F and Mysterious.
 
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Re: Hello

Originally posted by Machivelli
The key here is what do you want out of this interaction. U seem to be focused on the outcome, fully understood, and I would go as far as to say you hold this girl in high esteem. Is it because she said no and now you have a 2nd bite at the cherry. If your seeing some else thats cool. Personally I would go and enjoy myself. If something happens bonus, but I wouldnt go to any pains losing sleep over it. There are loads of chicks for you to meet, connect and ****. I wouldnt bring up that Im seeing a chick as it sounds like your validating yourself to her. You should come from that place where you have many women in your life on a regular basis and its no big deal. Thats attractive. Treat like an old friend, build up the rappor, amplify attraction and even bring up the fact you once had a thing for her. That will communicate your comfortable with yourself to talk openly about your feelings. Good hunting.
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Thanks man, I think all I needed was a little reassurance. I'm going to go with what you suggested - play it cool and treat her like an old friend.

.. and you're right I do hold her in high esteem because she was my first major rejection. Usually I'll see a girl and think "she's hot I'd love to bang her against a wall" but sometimes I see a girl like her where I dont even feel like trying because I'm intimidated. But I'm working on it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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cool buddy

When all is said and done, at least your taking action in your own life. Best of success. Look forward to hearing how it goes
 
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She likes you
Not an AW (they give up flriting if u ask not interested or know what there doing)

go for it......sounds like ur in the honey pot
 
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Update:

It was supposed to be just coffee but I ended up taking her to this nice italian pizza place. We just caught up on whats been happening the last few years and hung out there for a while. Then went and played pool for a bit before telling her I've got other plans for the night

She sent mixed signals, probably my fault because I was feeling a little tired and anti-social so I didn't hold up much convo - she even asked why I was so quiet. I didnt know what to do about it but played it cool and kept the convo going

A really odd thing that hit me was when I went to pay for the pizza (it was only $15 for both of us so why not) she offered instead, but I said she could pay next time, she then said "let me pay because there might not be a next time". I paid anyway and acted like it was no big deal. But I felt like ending the night there :mad: can anyone explain that any way other than the obvious?

After we parted ways she sent me a txt saying she had fun and we should meet up again sometime :confused:

She is definitely my type of girl, but I don't know - we didn't hit it off as well as I'd hoped. I dont know if shes into me or not judging from tonight
 
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