"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Juan_Man

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if you were a grad student at the University she works?

I'm getting major signals but there has to be some risks. Plus, she doesn't speak much English (but I do know a good amount of Spanish). She also looks around my age. What do you think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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if she's hot, yes, BUT only if you can keep it discreet. if she's average, wouldn't even bother
 

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fuk yeah go for it. tell her to speak in spanish when you get in on her in the toilet.
 

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I like these responses but are you guys really being serious? Yeah, she's hot (well, hot enough) but I'm worried that this could bite me in the a$$ somehow. What if she only wants a green card? What if she thinks I have money (I'm a broke a$$ grad student)? But then again, she does have her own car. What if she tries to accuse me of sexual assault? But then again, these type of situations can exist with any other woman (minus the green card issue). What to do, oh what to do.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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It depend what you like. Personaly i prefer girls that aspire slightly higher.
 

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LOL I was thinking the same the other day!

At my work this is this chinese girl is a janitor! :eek: But she is young and hot as crap. Keeps looking at me, we smile a lot to each other. It's just weird though, I should be checking out my coeworkers, not the lady cleaning the bathroom...maybe I'm sick or something. :rockon:
 

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Grab your balls, back-slap your inner AFC, and bang that maid!!! Don't worry about the ramifications or about being caught. If confronted about it, say "It seemed like a good idea at the time". That is the best and clearest way I can explain it to you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What risks? If she's giving you these "signs" and you go for it and she says No, then stop.
 

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Thanks for the advice, but I think I'm going to forego this one for now. The whole thing actually started last semester when I saw her and her older, heavier co-worker at a nearby restaurant. They were both in their uniforms and I was eating alone taking a break from studying. While there, a good song was playing in the background and I was bopping my head to the music. She caught me and started smiling. I was a little embarrassed but then something happened. She kept talking to her co-worker and looking at me. Then she started mimicking my head bopping and I gave her a smile. After that, she started talking to her co-worker again in Spanish and her co-worker told me that the girl said I was "bello" (which meant beautiful). I told her co-worker to tell her thank you and that I thought the same. The co-worker did so and ask me if I spoke Spanish. I said "un poco" (which meant a little). Then the co-worker said "Oh." After about 3 minutes, they both took off.

Now a new semester has begun and I ran into her two occasions. One time, she gave a shy smile and stopped to see if I would do anything but I didn't. The other time, she was entering the elevator and kept looking at me as the door was closing.

The whole thing seems innocent but I worry about something going wrong. First of all, there is no conceivable future between us because of the language barrier. Even though I can somewhat carry a conversation, my Spanish still isn't good enough. I don't really care about her being a janitor (my parents were both janitors at one point). But I worry that people may think I'm taking advantage of her and that's where the trouble would start. I know I'm overanalyzing this but I have to. My plan is just to appreciate the attention for now and leave it at that.
 

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What the hell?!?! Just say, "It seemed like a good idea at the time"! That will get you out of any situation!
 

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If we all worried about things before we did it, nothing would get done.

Just do it. Hot girl, great sex, and a slap on the wrist at the very most.
 

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Espi said:
Way to fight the stereotype, bro! LOL

Don't expect such cultural narrowmindedness from a college grad, but, hell, HB teachers fvuvk 14-year-olds...

Just do her.
Haha. My parents are immigrants with immigrant friends, so I know from experience that the 'green card' thing DOES happen. But I apologize if I offended anyone.

As far as this girl goes, I'll just play it by ear. Who knows? She may be just as hesitant as I am.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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