jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Would you see it as a challenge or simply acknowledge the fact that there's something about that girl that's making her distance herself from you, a problem of hers, or that you're not her "number 1"?
Listen: this friend of ours has been in a 6-year relationship with this girl.
It started out a bit so-so; in fact, at the beginning, after only 3 months, they both looked around and just broke up and started dating other people.
Then they got back together.
Then they broke up after 3 months.
Then they got back together and stayed together for 5 years.
This year, their son was born, and we were all happy to see them happy, but we learned that in their fourth year, she had become emotionally distant from him, coinciding with her job change.
In fact, we learned that she had a crush on a colleague, but that colleague didn't reciprocate. (Our friend came to know this from a manager).
That said, after about 2 or 3 months, she reconnected and in tune with him, and it seems they had fantastic sex (which is when she got pregnant).
Our friend, suffering from her disrespect and emotional distance for those 2 or 3 months, kinda felt like taking revenge on that colleague (even though he didn't reciprocate), by sending him an audio message wishing him "Hey have a happy birthday mate", while in the background, you could faintly hear that he and his girlfriend were finally having sex again.
For the record, we stayied late at that dinner, and commented on our friend when he wasn't there. (not to gossip, but just because we're trying to make a better group of man).
We've seen this behavior as immature and insecure.
We told ourselves that if our GF would ever do that, and that it's not the first time, we actually have to understand a bit about why we allow that in the first instance, or that maybe she has some issues (hypersexuality, BPD, BP etc..)
We thought our friend could not leave because of economic issues we all are facing in italy in our age range 25 to 35.
So He actually acted as "Yes I know you've got this thing, but I can wait you", instead of "Ok, It's time for me to walk away".
What do you think of our friend? We'd like to hear the perspective of more experienced men on this.
Did you ever had something like that in your life?
How did you act and how would you act again?
PS: In Italy these things happen often, unfortunately, and people believe they have to "solve the problems" rather than say "you didn't respect me in the first place, so I'm walking away."
Listen: this friend of ours has been in a 6-year relationship with this girl.
It started out a bit so-so; in fact, at the beginning, after only 3 months, they both looked around and just broke up and started dating other people.
Then they got back together.
Then they broke up after 3 months.
Then they got back together and stayed together for 5 years.
This year, their son was born, and we were all happy to see them happy, but we learned that in their fourth year, she had become emotionally distant from him, coinciding with her job change.
In fact, we learned that she had a crush on a colleague, but that colleague didn't reciprocate. (Our friend came to know this from a manager).
That said, after about 2 or 3 months, she reconnected and in tune with him, and it seems they had fantastic sex (which is when she got pregnant).
Our friend, suffering from her disrespect and emotional distance for those 2 or 3 months, kinda felt like taking revenge on that colleague (even though he didn't reciprocate), by sending him an audio message wishing him "Hey have a happy birthday mate", while in the background, you could faintly hear that he and his girlfriend were finally having sex again.
For the record, we stayied late at that dinner, and commented on our friend when he wasn't there. (not to gossip, but just because we're trying to make a better group of man).
We've seen this behavior as immature and insecure.
We told ourselves that if our GF would ever do that, and that it's not the first time, we actually have to understand a bit about why we allow that in the first instance, or that maybe she has some issues (hypersexuality, BPD, BP etc..)
We thought our friend could not leave because of economic issues we all are facing in italy in our age range 25 to 35.
So He actually acted as "Yes I know you've got this thing, but I can wait you", instead of "Ok, It's time for me to walk away".
What do you think of our friend? We'd like to hear the perspective of more experienced men on this.
Did you ever had something like that in your life?
How did you act and how would you act again?
PS: In Italy these things happen often, unfortunately, and people believe they have to "solve the problems" rather than say "you didn't respect me in the first place, so I'm walking away."
