Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
muscleman said:One of them happens to live 1.5 hours away.
But the question is ... is pvssy worth the drive? That's a fair amount of gas money
I'm finding myself at a bit of a crossroads, call it being selective or whatever, but I just don't go after the girls I used to anymore.
Please tell me thats hyperbole.I spent $2000 and flew to Europe to french a 20 year old girl.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rex Man said:Please tell me thats hyperbole.
You are letting HER call the shots. Yes, you are. You are letting HER lead YOU, which is what you flamed me so bad for. If you were a REAL Don Juan like you PRETENDED to be in my thread, then SHE would be driving 1.5 hours to see YOU, RIGHT? You are putting the pu55y on a pedestal. If you really believed what you were saying to me, then you wouldn't be putting HER above YOU. Make her waste HER gas money to see YOU, for YOU are the Don Juan here, RIGHT?Ever since my last breakup I kinda said fvck it and started focusing on myself. Currently there are a few girls that I could get with, but none that I REALLY want to do. One of them happens to live 1.5 hours away. I told her if I came to see her it would be a weekend thing and I'd have to crash at her place for the night to which she agreed.
But the question is ... is pvssy worth the drive? That's a fair amount of gas money
Sounds like you are losing your edge to me.I'm finding myself at a bit of a crossroads, call it being selective or whatever, but I just don't go after the girls I used to anymore.
Lazy, huh? Sounds like you don't have a good enough PLAN to me. The fact that you were even CONSIDERING driving that far just to get some snatch, and then you would get "pissed to all hell" if it "didn't work," tells me that you have an AFC attitude.I must be lazy. Not gonna do it. One of you can have her. It's just too far, and if it didn't work I'd be pissed to all hell that I just spent 3 hours worth of gas money and life.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Here's a question for ya', would you drive 1.5 hours in order to get to the job that you have now (with the same salary)?My Name is Nobody said:Anybody who says NO is lying.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Here's a question for ya', would you drive 1.5 hours in order to get to the job that you have now (with the same salary)?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Oooookkkkkkk.... Sooooooo....My Name is Nobody said:Ofcourse YOU wouldn't drive an hour and a half Francisco.. you are a PIMP. I'm not even close to being on your level... and I don't think very many people on this site are either.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Oooookkkkkkk.... Sooooooo....
Would you drive an hour and a half to get to the job that you have now at the same salary?
Alright, that put things into perspective for your situation.My Name is Nobody said:Well considering my current job is not satisfying me, YES, I would take that other offer! But only part-time.
Wouldn't it be easier to just hire a hooker?Jayer said:YO WHO ARE WE KIDDING.... WE'D ALL DRIVE 3 HOURS FOR GAURANTEED ASS!!!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.