Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
muscleman said:One of them happens to live 1.5 hours away.
But the question is ... is pvssy worth the drive? That's a fair amount of gas money
I'm finding myself at a bit of a crossroads, call it being selective or whatever, but I just don't go after the girls I used to anymore.
Please tell me thats hyperbole.I spent $2000 and flew to Europe to french a 20 year old girl.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rex Man said:Please tell me thats hyperbole.
You are letting HER call the shots. Yes, you are. You are letting HER lead YOU, which is what you flamed me so bad for. If you were a REAL Don Juan like you PRETENDED to be in my thread, then SHE would be driving 1.5 hours to see YOU, RIGHT? You are putting the pu55y on a pedestal. If you really believed what you were saying to me, then you wouldn't be putting HER above YOU. Make her waste HER gas money to see YOU, for YOU are the Don Juan here, RIGHT?Ever since my last breakup I kinda said fvck it and started focusing on myself. Currently there are a few girls that I could get with, but none that I REALLY want to do. One of them happens to live 1.5 hours away. I told her if I came to see her it would be a weekend thing and I'd have to crash at her place for the night to which she agreed.
But the question is ... is pvssy worth the drive? That's a fair amount of gas money
Sounds like you are losing your edge to me.I'm finding myself at a bit of a crossroads, call it being selective or whatever, but I just don't go after the girls I used to anymore.
Lazy, huh? Sounds like you don't have a good enough PLAN to me. The fact that you were even CONSIDERING driving that far just to get some snatch, and then you would get "pissed to all hell" if it "didn't work," tells me that you have an AFC attitude.I must be lazy. Not gonna do it. One of you can have her. It's just too far, and if it didn't work I'd be pissed to all hell that I just spent 3 hours worth of gas money and life.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Here's a question for ya', would you drive 1.5 hours in order to get to the job that you have now (with the same salary)?My Name is Nobody said:Anybody who says NO is lying.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Here's a question for ya', would you drive 1.5 hours in order to get to the job that you have now (with the same salary)?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oooookkkkkkk.... Sooooooo....My Name is Nobody said:Ofcourse YOU wouldn't drive an hour and a half Francisco.. you are a PIMP. I'm not even close to being on your level... and I don't think very many people on this site are either.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Oooookkkkkkk.... Sooooooo....
Would you drive an hour and a half to get to the job that you have now at the same salary?
Alright, that put things into perspective for your situation.My Name is Nobody said:Well considering my current job is not satisfying me, YES, I would take that other offer! But only part-time.
Wouldn't it be easier to just hire a hooker?Jayer said:YO WHO ARE WE KIDDING.... WE'D ALL DRIVE 3 HOURS FOR GAURANTEED ASS!!!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.