Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
They mention it so that when you eventually fvck them they can absolve themselves of any guilt since they "told you about their bf and YOU still seduced them anyway".nope, hell I would possible stand and leave on spot, waste of time, also its would be a huge red flag, if she was really interested in me she would "forget" to mention that, hell she wouldn't even tells you about any possible ex she would have
^ This... "seduced" or "raped"They mention it so that when you eventually fvck them they can absolve themselves of any guilt since they "told you about their bf and YOU still seduced them anyway".
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
'Oh that's too bad. I get my bonus at my job in 181 days. It's for 500K and I could take you all over the world in first class flights and hotels. But since you are going back to your boyfriend after 6 months I won't be able to do that.'You're on a date with a woman. She tells you she has a long distance boyfriend but they agreed to date other people for the next six months. Would you still date her?